Comments on: Change Your Mind, Change Your Game [Day 6 - 30 Days to Changing Your Game]

By: shannonshort

shannonshort — Wed, 07 Jul 2010 04:36:51 +0000

Don't ask “Why” ask “Why Not”. I'm putting this somewhere on a big poster where I can see it every day!! “Why not” — it feels really good and does make me feel hopeful and diffuses the fear. Combine this with remembering your Holy Shit moments and the fact that you pretty much always live through them with little more than a bruised ego, and htat sounds like a combo for success!!

By: QuestionKerri

QuestionKerri — Tue, 19 Jan 2010 22:49:16 +0000

(I'm a couple days late to the party – sorry about that!) But I really loved this post and especially loved what you said above, “Isn't it funny how we can psych ourselves out….” Pushing past the fear is so tough but I am determined to try this year. Thanks for a great article!

By: kymlee

kymlee — Tue, 19 Jan 2010 05:40:55 +0000

So right. Everything won't be perfect but we can control how we react to those unexpected occurrences and lead happier more productive lives.

By: kymlee

kymlee — Tue, 19 Jan 2010 05:39:39 +0000

Sounds like you've already put yourself in the mindset of recognizing the negative (reactive) pattern which is an important step! And I like the idea of looking at yourself as part of a whole. It opens to door to being much more forgiving when people do things you don't like.

By: kymlee

kymlee — Tue, 19 Jan 2010 05:36:29 +0000

The introspection is really about taking responsibility for your actions and reactions. I find it less stressful to work on controlling myself than to try to mold someone else into what I want them to be.

PS–I LOVE Rock Band! The best party game EVAR

By: Kristin

Kristin — Tue, 19 Jan 2010 03:49:43 +0000

Awesome post. Thank you Kimberlee for putting this together and encouraging us to change our games. I wholeheartedly agree that our mind influences our success. A month ago I read the book “Paving it forward” by Elizabeth Fayt. She also writes about the importance of changing our mind to achieve our goals. If we expect a negative outcome of a meeting it almost for sure will be like this. On the other hand, if we have a positive attitude, try to see the positive things and expect things to happen the way we project we will most likely have more positive experiences and achieve our goals.

By: Mike Korner

Mike Korner — Tue, 19 Jan 2010 02:01:15 +0000

Much wisdom Kimberlee; thank you!. I wish our politicians would read this and do a little introspection. Oops — I'm supposed to avoid rants More than anything, I try to be proactive instead of reactive. It doesn’t always work out that way, but when I find myself stuck in reactive mode, I head back to more proactive state. Another thing I do is to take responsibility for my actions and circumstances. If I did great, it is usually because I worked hard. If I screwed up, I usually didn’t do something so I book my lesson(s) learned to avoid making the same mistake next time. I also try to learn from others because I don't have enough time to learn everything the hard way. Finally, at work, I keep a saying on my wall, “We Are They”. I’m not sure where I first heard that saying but it reminds me that 5 years from now, when people look back and say, “why did THEY do that?”, that I am part of the “THEY”. It helps keep things in perspective.

By: sarahyewtree

sarahyewtree — Mon, 18 Jan 2010 13:29:25 +0000

Hi I'm playing a bit of catch up here…since I last checked in we've had a difficult couple of days with a client who we've had a good relationship with suddenly asking us to compromise in a way that would undermine the inherent values in what we do…I'm proud to say we have drawn a line in the sand and refused to be threatened by them…although it felt like a risk financially…so first of all sorry for lagging behind but I'm back and catching up now…the warnings about ranting really made me stop and think, it's something I do not often but perhaps too often…next time I'll really think about how much use it is actually being and how I could be using the energy more usefully…thank you for this insight

By: Kevin Vandever

Kevin Vandever — Mon, 18 Jan 2010 03:46:05 +0000

Avoid rants! Oh my. I find myself in the middle of professional and personal rants every so often. What's worse, I recently engaged in one with my daughter. Oops! No Dad points that day.

Kimberlee, thank you very much for this valuable information.

By: Nazima Ali

Nazima Ali — Mon, 18 Jan 2010 03:21:07 +0000

I think for me to get out of the rant phase and into 'doing' to date has just happened. Weird as it sounds I think I get to a point where my brain says "enough, something needs to change", sometimes it's a book I've read or a conversation I've had. Something inspires me to start changing what I don't like.

I go for walks, make lists whatever I feel will take me to the next step. The key now is to become more aware of when I start ranting and take more concious steps to change rather than letting things just happen.

Definitely something to work on and think more on. Thank you for this post. It's brought up another thing I can work on to help change my game.