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What's Your Financial Goal? [Day 5 - 30 Days to Changing Your Game]

This is Day 5 of 30 Days to Changing Your Game. Yesterday Nat Slavin expanded our relationship building skills with  The List. Today Colin Lewis (who is truly one of the smartest people I know) is going to shift gears a little bit and talk about getting our financial goals in order.

What’s Your Financial Goal

By Colin Lewis (@ColinLewis)

Money may not be able to buy you happiness, but it sure can provide peace of mind. I think about money a lot, I like Napoleon Hill’s term of “Money Conscious.” I’m sure most people think about money a lot, in fact many surveys tell us that its right up there with sex as one of the most thought of subjects…… yet guess what…..very few executives or entrepreneurs that I have coached, add the financial aspect to their annual plans.

In my mid 40’s I strongly believe wealth has to be grown from the inside out. I never used to think that way, I lived an outside in life, there was the helicopter, goodness knows how many ‘flash cars,’ the sailing yacht, dinners at the swankiest restaurants in whatever city I happened to be jetting in and out of, and so on. Nice memories but then disaster struck….the millions of dollars I had in stock, tanked, virtually all gone overnight!

Of course I had the fancy toys that I could sell and get by, but the depreciation of their value was frightening. The Yacht that I got soaked on during the 5 times I used it (yep only 5 times) went from US$ 47,000 to a value of US$ 30,000 in just over 12 months….I might as well have stood in my back yard and had someone spray a hose pipe of water on me as I tore up dollar bills.

It was a very welcome lesson. Thoreau had it right when he said “simplify, simplify, simplify.” Today my toys are books and sport clothing…that’s it, that’s all I need – you see I learned the truth of what Paul meant in 1 Corinthians 16:2, “On the first day of every week let each one of you put aside and save, as he may prosper.”

Do you put aside at least 1 day’s income a week? After my set back I began putting aside 60% of my monthly income, some by investments in properties and some just in pure cash. This is one of the greatest pieces of advice for executives and entrepreneurs, we never know when disaster will knock at the door, that divorce which you never expected, the client that cancels the big order, the health problems that keep you from work but the insurance company won’t cover your income let alone your health bills.

Stop right now and answer this question – If you or your partner lost his or her job/income, how many months or years could you survive without adjusting your standard of living?

The advice I give people on my coaching program is start with the end in mind. You are 45 now, your very healthy and plan on living another 50 years, how much do you need? Do the math. If you want an income of US$ 250,000 a year after taxes, so you can travel, take care of the children’s education, the grandchildren, provide donations to charities close to your heart and have a degree of financial freedom. Guess how much you will need?  The answer is US$ 12.5 million. I call this my “Financial Freedom target.”

That figure often frightens people, it shouldn’t – it should be a wake up call, a great challenge to go out there and earn it…because you are clever, creative, live in time when anybody can achieve prosperity. The authors of The 12 Factors of Business Success, (one of whom Dr Mollie Marti is a co blogger on Sarah’s 30 Days to Change Your Game Blog Series) tell us that “You are born with the right to pursue wealth and the potential to be rich. Your income is largely self-determined.” Many of the ancient sages and current day thought leaders tell us this but not everyone gets the message.

Now do another quick calculation – if you add up all your financial assets and subtract your financial liabilities, do you end up with a positive or a negative number?

The majority of people in their 40’s end up with a negative. Imagine if you could turn that around and start creating not just a safety net, but significant steps towards achieving your ‘end goal’ your “Financial Freedom target.” Because once you get absolutely clear on that target you go to work achieving it, what you think will be, will be. Isn’t it the best use of your time and talent whilst you have the faculties and good health to do so? Don’t wait, I encourage you to build that target into your planning now. Here’s a few questions to help you get started;

Do you have a clear, Financial Freedom goal that you could summarize in two sentences?

Could you adjust your outgoings to start saving more each month?

What steps will you take now to ensure your Financial Freedom target is met?

Colin Lewis is the author of Wisdom Notes. Through Wisdom Notes he aims to distill the knowledge contained in great books, interweave it with some of the wisdom of the ages, and provide the reader with a clear, illuminating picture of how to apply this in their every day life. This provides them with the opportunity to shift their con­sciousness to new levels of awareness. http://www.wisdomnote.com/

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  • Anonymous

    Notes to the Tribe:

    Keep connecting, keep engaging and DON”T STOP!!

    Notes for Today

    1) Today’s theme song is: Let’s Dance by David Bowie: http://tinysong.com/74PJ
    2) I got an email from Colin. He lives in Poland and they are experiencing some major internet disruptions. He hopes to be able to join us and respond to comments as soon as possible. In the meantime, we can help each other with this one, right?!
    3) I am asking something extra of the tribe in response to the crisis in Haiti. On the home page of this blog there is a chipin widget that allows people to make secure online donations to help the people of Haiti. If you can make even the smallest donation, it will help. I simply cannot imagine what they are going through in that tiny impoverished country.
    4) If you have signed up to be on the email list (you get little extras from me), you MUST complete the double opt-in process to get them. Look for an email from me in your inbox or in your spam folder and click on the link inside it.
    5) I have set up a Face book Group for us: http://www.facebook.com/#/group.php?gid=246014862902
    6) I built a list on twitter of all the guest bloggers to make it easy for you to follow them: http://twitter.com/#/list/SarahRobinson/thirtydayguestbloggers
    7) There are also two twitter lists of participants in 30 Days. You will find them here: http://twitter.com/MirkoGosch/escapingmediocrity and http://twitter.com/The_Promo_Guy/game-changing

  • Anonymous

    Colin this is completely brilliant and utterly confronting because you have me pegged! What I particularly appreciate is you speaking from the point of view of being 40+. I never wanted to even calculate what I needed to retire because it seemed an unattainable goal, particularly after the reversals of 2008/2009. Here’s how it’s gone in my head: if I do what I know to do so “save up,” I’ll have to live like hermit now and I probably won’t even attain the $12M, so what the heck – carpe diem. What bunk. I too have simplified and I’m actually happier – devoting my financial resources to things that will really make a difference in my life instead of just “stuff”. It’s been an exercise in gratitude. I now feel ready to take on your savings challenge and quit pretending I’m not in charge of this life I’ve got! KA-CHING!

    • Anonymous

      You ARE in charge! And here is what I have learned about money: if you ignore it, it ignores you. :-)

      • http://www.accessabundance.com/ Teresa Romain

        I’m going to DITTO Sarah on this one… the phrase I use with my clients is almost the same “You have to pay attention to money if you want money to pay attention to you.”

        But then I add that it’s HOW you pay attention to it that matters most. And the key to that is the word you brought into this discussion, LaConsuelo… GRATITUDE.

        No matter how large or small the amount – pay attention to it with gratitude and use it with respect. Far too often (and I’ve been guilty of this myself), we “not enough” the money we have and are making today – thinking that will motivate us to make more. But it doesn’t work that way. If we’re not grateful for and do not respect/take care of the money we already have – no matter how large or small the amount – why would the Universe/God/Spirit/etc. give you MORE?

        • Anonymous

          Ha! Teresa, I didn’t read your reply prior to writing my own. Sounds like we have similar beliefs when it comes to money. :-) However, believing and acting upon are two very different things. I am still practicing the acting upon part!

      • Anonymous

        Whoa. Now that makes a statement: If you ignore (money), it ignores you.

        And I’ll add: And if you try to hold on too tightly once you get it, it may be less likely to keep coming around. (You know…kind of like a guy/girl who is suffocated in a relationship.)

        Point is, we have to trust that there is more where that came from (this is the hard part for me) and be good stewards of the money that comes our way, which includes being willing to spend when spending is the “right” decision for our life and our business.

  • Anonymous

    Ya’ll, I have asked Teresa Romain to step in and help guide this discussion until Colin can re-join us. She knows WAY more about this than I do so once again, my List comes in handy. :-)

    Thank you Teresa!

    • Anonymous

      Great choice, Sarah!

      Teresa REALLY knows her stuff!

      • http://www.accessabundance.com/ Teresa Romain

        Thanks for the vote of confidence Shelagh!

    • http://www.accessabundance.com/ Teresa Romain

      Thank YOU Sarah… I’m honored to be on your list and I’m honored to be able to support as much as I can here today. But, GIRL, you sure are stretching me this week in terms of learning how this whole Social Media world works! :-)

  • Anonymous

    ok, so wow. First off, I’ll be honest, the 12.5 million did scare me….a lot. It”s funny because I had never really thought to write my financial goals down but why not? I am writing all my other goals down, thanks to Sherman. I think that combining this post with Sherman’s post is going to be integral. Write a financial goal for myself for the end of this year, and then break it down into the quarterly, monthly and weekly goals. This certainly gets me thinking in a new light. I also like the idea of putting aside one days income per week. Colin, your book Wisdom Notes, sounds amazing. That’s now on my reading list. Thank you for the paradigm shift, I look forward to more!!!

    • Anonymous

      Hey Kristie!
      My hope is that all the posts will dovetail together nicely so that we are all crystal clear by the end of 30 Days. I think your plan for getting it broken is crucial. And yes – Colin’s book is brilliant!

      • Anonymous

        Thanks again for this Sarah, I can already tell that I am going to miss this once our 30 days are up!!! I eagerly await each morning email from you saying the post is up!!!

    • Anonymous

      I am going to do this as well Kristie for both my business and personal life. I live on a weird catch 22 income structure, so I have to be careful how much I make but I would like to make at least $700 to $1000 extra a month so I can put some back each month for business expenses and such.

  • http://twitter.com/rosecasanova Rose Casanova

    Very powerful post. I will reread this over and over. I have been a starving artist for too long (and I can’t even draw a stickman). I am a little younger than you and the realization is often frightening of where I could end up if I don’t start investing in myself. Sometimes it saddens me that I’ve put myself on the back burner. Thank you for your insight.

    • Anonymous

      I’ve so been where you are Rose. A little grieving may be in order so you CAN begin investing in yourself. And good for you for recognizing what you want to do. :-)

    • http://www.accessabundance.com/ Teresa Romain

      I’ve been where you’re at, too, Rose… only, get this, I was a starving “abundance coach”! Go figure, huh? And, despite all of my apparent “self confidence”, it all boiled down to the fact that I didn’t value myself… my self-worth was almost non-existent (and I’m still working on that today!) Again, since the internals create the externals… until I started making ME important… I would never be able to achieve my financial goals. So I started asking myself a question every day that helped me begin to break the pattern of putting me on the back burner that I hope it’s okay to share with you. It was this…

      “What is one thing I will do today to remind myself that I am more important than anything I do/anything that has to get done?”

      As I started consciously putting myself on the front burner in one way every day, I found it easier to start doing it in other ways – including with money. Maybe my question will help you break that “back burner” pattern too.

  • Anonymous

    I read “The Secret” over a year ago and believe that just about anything is possible. So, the $12.5 didn’t scare me, but it intimidates me. Deep down I know I have the abilities to do whatever I want to do, however it’s that top layer of doubt that blocks my every move. I have obtained a Computer Programming degree, my RN (BSN) license, Certification as a Legal Nurse Consultant and recently a Realtor Sales Associate license and yet my income is no where close to what it needs to be. I have a ‘plan’ in my head, but at this point it is worth writing down and posting on my vision board. Perhaps looking at it will help destroy that first level of doubt!

    • Anonymous

      Oooo Vision board, I really like that Idea, And I could put my monthly/weekly goals from Sherman’s post in that. Now I am e energized to tackle my cubicle of a home office……..

      • Anonymous

        My vision board is always within my site. I believe it works more on the subconscious level (always seeing it), but either way it works great for me. Good luck!

        • Anonymous

          well I had never heard of that term, and what I’m thinking is to put visual goals ie-pictoral images of where I want to holiday etc on it so that it is always within my view and then that would ensure I am always mindful of it and it is ever present. My hope is then that when I find myself wasting time, those images n my subconcious will kick my sorry butt into gear…

          • Anonymous

            That’s exactly what it’s for. Once I achieve the particular vision, I replace it with a new one. It’s like a wish board!

          • http://www.accessabundance.com/ Teresa Romain

            Vision boards are INCREDIBLY powerful and you’re right, Michele, they work at a subconscious as well as conscious. One of the things I’ve learned and incorporate into the training I do is that our subconscious minds record EVERYTHING 24/7/365. Even if we’re not consciously focusing on something, our subconscious sees and records it. So creating and having a powerful vision board with images of what you want to have and experience is powerful – and those imagines are being recorded over and over again in our mind. Since, as Colin said, our internals create our externals… make that vision powerful enough in your mind and pathways toward its manifestation will appear!

          • Anonymous

            No negative stinkin’ thinking re:sorry butt. Your allowing that self sabotage to creep back in go back and read Carla Young’s post again and again until it sinks in.

          • Anonymous

            Thanks Joe for giving that sorry butt a kick lol

    • Anonymous

      Money is energy plain and simple. And I think the idea of putting it on your vision board is GREAT!!!

      • Anonymous

        Absolutely – thanks!!!

      • http://www.anjwritesabout.com AnjWrites

        Wait – have you typed those words on another post…I’m having a HUGE deja vu moment here! BTW, this financial post is exactly the sort of thing I usually avoid because it also intimidates the heck out of me. But being committed to the 30 Days process means that instead of trying to bury my head in the sand, this time I have set up an appt to talk with my hubby tonight about our plan – once and for all. We have BIG dreams, but I also believe that our carpe diem approach has held us back and created MORE stress than help. Again, thank you Sarah for this program…and thank you Colin for the insight and plan of attack!

    • http://www.accessabundance.com/ Teresa Romain

      Hi Michele! Boy – could I relate to your post (as you might guess if you read mine). This (meaning YOU!) are SO worth writing this down and posting on your vision board. And, even if you are nowhere near where you need to be, I know (as I wrote) that taking even a small step upward starts things rolling that can’t happen until you start rolling! (Or maybe I should say R.O.C.King??)

  • Anonymous

    Thanks Colin – your post has come as a timely reminder for me personally to re-connect with T Harv Eker’s Wealth affirmations – these are from his fab ‘Millionare Mindset Intensive’ seminar and I’d forgotten how powerful they are.
    So, here we go, my top 3 financial affirmations for 2010:

    “I put money into my Financial Freedom Fund every day” (at least 10% of everything I earn)

    “I deserve to be rich because I add value to other people’s lives”

    “My capacity to earn, hold and grow money expands day-by-day”

    I feel better now! Thanks :-)

    • Anonymous

      Feeling good around money is more than half the battle Michelle. Good for you for getting yourself back into that space. :-)

    • http://sallyg.me Sally G.

      “I deserve to be rich because I add value to other people’s lives” ~ wow, that just pierced me. I’m going to put that on the bulletin board next to my computer. Thank you Michelle!

    • http://www.accessabundance.com/ Teresa Romain

      Hey Michelle! When did you go to MMI???? It’s been YEARS for me… but just reading your post and affirmations reconnected me with that experience too! Also had me realize that there’s one it will support me to start using again too… the one about “adding value to other people’s lives”. Thanks!

  • http://twitter.com/thrivecoaching Vanessa Torre

    Sigh. The financial goal. I have been SO good at putting money aside. I have maxed my 401K contribution for as long back as I can remember and I have a good size nest egg building. Sadly right now I have NO liquid funds (the bad happened here too: divorce, house sale in a horrific market, values dropped even more, pay cuts, major increase in kid costs, etc.)

    My goal for right now is to clear every bit of debt so I can leave my “day job” and follow my calling and passion. Terrifying on so many accounts. I am chipping away at it and have set a 6-month goal to get there. I have learned many lessons along the way as well about simplifying life. AND, I have done some serious thinking about what I want that retirement to look like. Money follows positive thought shifts.

    Thanks Colin, for the great things to think about.

    • Anonymous

      Wow Vanessa. Your plan is amazing. though it may feel challenging at times, you are making serious progress toward making a life that YOU want. Way to take up your power!

    • http://sallyg.me Sally G.

      I’d like to add my admiration and support to Sarah’s, Vanessa. Your resilience is inspiring!

    • http://www.accessabundance.com/ Teresa Romain

      Hi Vanessa! You are SO on the right track about clearing every bit of debt. I’m not quite there (still have the mortgage and one debt in my business) – but not having that claim on your income is SO freeing and empowering. I work with a LOT of my clients on this issue… teach them that debt is not just a claim on your income, it’s a claim on your time and energy (since that’s what we exchange to make money). It’s that claim on our freedom that keeps us having to do things we don’t want to do to make money (like your “day job” that is not congruent with your passion and calling.) So – you keep thinking those FREEING thoughts and keep ROCKing (and chipping) away at it!

      • http://twitter.com/thrivecoaching Vanessa Torre

        Thank you all for the support! You have NO idea how good it is to hear. I am totally overwhelmed by it (yeah, and my dog eating two pairs of my underwear and having to pay $2700 to get them OUT did NOT help the situation.) The big picture is the key to me. I’ve lived on a nice salary but my happiness and sanity have no price and cutting my salary in half as a single mom is a daunting idea but the less I have to spend, the more I can focus on what really matters. Spending $365 a month so my daughter is totally counterproductive to the fact my time with her is what my life is about.

        I realized after an amazing vacation to my boyfriend’s family (beautiful simple folks in small town Iowa) that we shouldn’t focus on the life that we’re living but rather how we’re LIVING our life. Major two totally different thought processes.

        • http://www.accessabundance.com/ Teresa Romain

          I like that… “we shouldn’t focus on the life that we’re living but rather how we’re LIVING our life.” Thanks!

        • Anonymous

          Yikes that is a pricey vet bill. Glad to hear your dogs came out of it ok tho. Dogs eat the dangdest things.

  • Ava Diamond (@feistywoman)

    Wonderful post, Colin. And I absolutely agree that all wealth begins in consciousness. Having started my speaking and consulting business in 1995, it’s been a long time since I had a “steady paycheck,” paid by an employer. And I’ve operated on the faith that the clients will flow in.

    And they do. Yet not at the level I’d need to amass the kind of figure you talk about. Or even close. It’s definitely an area where I need to place more focus. And I know the place to do that is at the level of consciousness, coupled with some clear goals.

    For the readers of Colin’s post today, if you’ve not subscribed to his weekly Wisdom Notes, you’re missing out on something wonderful. What Colin didn’t tell you about them in the description above is that 100% of the proceeds from the subscriptions go to benefit orphans. So subscribing is a win-win for you and the children.

  • http://twitter.com/mckra1g mckra1g

    Wow. Money buys choices. I appreciate this opportunity to face my fears about finances. I’m currently reading Your Money or Your Life (re-published version) which incorporates sustainablity and environmental perspectives to the way we make value judgments with our purchases.

    It’s enlightening. I like how multiple versions of the same lesson have been crossing my path lately. Great post! Thanks much.

    • http://www.accessabundance.com/ Teresa Romain

      Hey there! It sounds like that old expression is at work in your life, i.e., “when the student is ready, the teacher will appear!”… only in your case, it sounds like “multiple teachers”. Congrats! YMYL is a great book… I didn’t know there as a re-published version so thanks for that heads up to check it out!

  • http://www.accessabundance.com/ Teresa Romain

    Hey Colin, Sarah & Tribe!

    Since this “money stuff” and prosperity is what I do, I read Colin’s post this morning and could imagine all the people in this game stop who would stop breathing as they read it. So -just in case you’re one of them…

    Please BREATHE!

    Colin is so right on… and is probably not really saying anything you don’t already know and haven’t heard. But the challenge is… what are we doing about it? Are we PRACTICING this? Are we putting it in action in our lives today?

    Let me be up front. Sarah sent me an email this morning and asked if I could help out and make comments/reply today in the role of “guest expert” given Colin’s predicament. And if Colin can’t be here today, I will be honored to offer what support I can.

    But know that I am still in this 30-Days Game as a participant – just like I’m in the business I do (teaching and coaching and training on abundance and prosperity – especially with money) as a participant. I am the poster child for the old saying “You teach best what you most need to learn and practice yourself.” (And I am NOT kidding!)

    Which is why I had to ask myself as I read your blog, Colin…”Okay, Teresa, you know this stuff. You teach this stuff. But are you practicing it?”

    And my answer is “YES”. I’m not yet at the level of savings and investing that Colin is at (not even close). I’m not yet at the level that I want to be at (again, not even close). And there’s a lot I don’t know and will need to learn about investing. But that’s what makes his message of having a financial goal so important – especially now that we all have a method of R.O.C.K.ing toward that goal (courtesy of Sherman’s blog on Day 2).

    I’m happy that I could answer “YES” today. Five years ago, I couldn’t. (Full disclosure. For my entire life PRIOR to five years ago, my answer would have been “no”.)

    Oh, I KNEW I needed to do it. And I understood why. And, yes, I even coached and taught my clients to do it. But I kept waiting until I was making MORE money so that then I would have “enough” to save. By my calculations, I had to be saving and investing $1,500-$2,500 a month – at a MINIMUM – to make up for lost time. And even though I live a very simply life, I didn’t have that much.

    So, I kept waiting until I made enough to have enough to start saving and investing. And I kept ploughing any money I made back into my business so I could make MORE money. (You know, “you have to spend money to make money?” I could be a poster child for that saying, too!

    And during that time (pretty much my entire adult life), I was making ZERO money with my money. I had ZERO in savings and reserves. If I had been unable to keep making the money in my business, we wouldn’t have lasted ONE month – unless you count our available credit on credit cards an “emergency fund”. (Been there, done that too! NOT a good idea!)

    I kept waiting until I had “enough” and, as a consequence, never started. So – a little more than five years ago, I finally started. I remember it clearly. Each week, when I deposited my paycheck from my business into our checking account, I put $25 of it (off the top) into savings.

    And what I discovered – by simply STARTING – is that it’s not the AMOUNT that matters so much in the beginning – it’s the HABIT. And I had started to develop a prosperous and empowering HABIT with my money.

    Funny thing is… I didn’t miss the $25 each week. I didn’t experience scarcity. All the bills got paid. We still had food to eat. We still got to have fun in life. And… get this… I actually started making more money. And then I went from $25 a week to $50… and then $100 and then upward from there. I still don’t miss it. I don’t feel like I’m living a deprived life because I’m saving (and investing) that money.

    Au contraire! I LOVE seeing my money grow… and just seeing it grow, bit by bit, has me feel empowered and prosperous TODAY! And that, I know, will support me to keep R.O.C.K.ing along toward my other financial goals!

    • http://sallyg.me Sally G.

      Thank you for adding to Colin’s post Teresa. Reading your words was like looking into the mirror ~ I’m very much in the ‘waiting to have enough’ place. $25 per pay cheque into Savings doesn’t seem nearly as daunting as 1 day’s pay per week (please don’t read that as disrespect Colin – that is definitely a goal I will be working towards). I also like the image you shared of who I can be … someone who develops the HABIT of saving until I’m in a place where I can fully maximize the wisdom Colin has shared. I seem to operate from a place of ‘shame’ when it comes to money ~ and this is something I’m really trying to change.

      • http://www.accessabundance.com/ Teresa Romain

        I’m so glad that my story supported you Sally… here’s a quote you might like from Maria Nemeth’s book, “The Energy of Money” that you might like…

        “The good news is that every time you take Authentic Action with money, whatever that action is, you are being financially successful. Financial success is doing what you said you would do with the money, with ease. It’s something you demonstrate in the moment, not a goal out in front of you… “

        • Anonymous

          Teresa – thank you so much for adding this and for comments to my post earlier. It really is just starting . . . didn’t someone in this fabulous tribe this week say “starting is half done” – or was that my BFF . . . . if we never start, we’ll have exactly what we presently have, so we can grouse or simply begin and watch the miracles that happen by simply making that stand for ourselves. Again, many thanks! ~Connie

          • http://www.accessabundance.com/ Teresa Romain

            You’re so welcome Connie! That is how EVERYTHING we want is achieved – by starting! And I’m glad I know your first name now! :-)

      • http://www.anjwritesabout.com AnjWrites

        I am right there with you, Sally…down to the dollar amount and the base feeling where I operate. Another reason we’re working together? ;-)

    • http://twitter.com/thrivecoaching Vanessa Torre

      Teresa – Simply, I heart you. Thank you so much for sharing your story and the fact that it is NEVER too late. Mucho inspiration!

      • http://www.accessabundance.com/ Teresa Romain

        My pleasure and honor, Vanessa… truly!

  • Anonymous

    OK…Money…(argh)
    Thanks Colin for sharing your financial experiences with us! And thanks Sarah for getting Teresa to “sub” in for awhile until Colin can get online.

    Teresa….I’m the one who stopped breathing!!! Colin found my weakness and my shame with this financial post/goal. I am way too embarrassed to post “my truth” at this very moment…I feel as though I’ve been punched in the gut.

    However, I WILL regroup and post another response in a little while.
    p.s. loved the song today Sarah!!

    • http://sallyg.me Sally G.

      If it helps Deb – you are not alone. I, too, come from a place of shame/embarrassment when it comes to money. And although intellectually I know this is detrimental and illogical ~ the emotional roots are entrenched to a degree that every time I think I’ve unearthed them … it seems I have not. Please know that while our embarrassments are huge to us – our view of them is often warped, and the perspectives and support of others can heal and perhaps even eradicate erroneous beliefs.

      • Anonymous

        Sally….
        It does help to know that I am NOT alone w/ regards to my relationship with $$$$$. Thank YOU so much for your encouraging remarks. I do hope to eradicate my current belief system.
        YOU ROCK !!

        • http://sallyg.me Sally G.

          WE rock!! After reading Teresa’s wisdom to Gina about I Am Now Here — I felt a great weight lift off my shoulders and I took advantage of the sudden infusion of empowerment — and I started moving forward in my business planning in the areas of Income, Expenses, etc. There’s a lot to be said for Ah-Ha moments ~ and the liberation that came with knowing that I can just start right here, right now — wow, it made all the difference. I do hope this happens for you too!

          • http://www.accessabundance.com/ Teresa Romain

            You go girl! Just keep putting one foot in front of other and know that I’m doing the same! :-)

    • Anonymous

      Deb, I stopped breathing when I read it too. It’s an area in which I feel defeated. I have seldom felt that i earned enough to put any away, and during the brief times that I did, it didn’t take long for me to dip into it when my income fell off again.

      I suppose I have to face the dragon.

      • http://www.accessabundance.com/ Teresa Romain

        Hey… checking in… are you breathing yet?

        Remember my story? $25 a week is how I started. It’s not the AMOUNT that matters when you’re first starting out… as much as the habit and the facing of our fears that those small actions represent. And when it comes to being afraid our the “financial boogey-man”, the same thing works for us that we do for our kids.

        NOTE: The boogey-man only comes out at night.. in the dark! And so when one of our kids is afraid of the boogey-man, we don’t make fun of them, we don’t put them down, we don’t shame or embarrass them… instead, we turn a light on! And as soon as the light comes on, the boogey-man isn’t so scary.

        Same thing with starting to pay attention to and look at our money stuff… no matter how “bad” we may think our situation, starting to look and see and tell the truth is like “turning the light on”… and it’s not as scary as when we’re in the dark!

        YAY to this tribe – one and all – for our courage in turning the light on!!!

    • http://www.accessabundance.com/ Teresa Romain

      Are you breathing yet!

      Maybe this tribe needs to take ONE BIG collective BREATH together!

      Deb… check out my earlier reply to Gina Parrish.. that will help you take that first COURAGEOUS step of beginning to get clarity – for yourself – about your money… and let go of some of the embarrassment.

      You are NOW here… and even if you don’t like being here… it’s an important part of the process that you love and accept yourself – unconditionally – right where you’re at… “financial warts” and all. It sounds like you’ve made some mistakes. God knows, I have. It sounds like you wish you had done things differently. I understand. But all of that doesn’t make you any less of a person… and when you “get” that, then you can use all the energy you’ve been using for beating yourself up or “not wanting to look” for ROCKing toward what you want.

      Hugs to you!

  • Mike Korner

    Good article Colin. Thank you. I really need to get some specifics written down (out of my head). I’m adding a couple new “gamechanging” tasks to the Finances section of my “life area” chart.

    Note to Sarah … Hey, this stuff really does all go together. It’s almost like you planned it that way :)

    I may not need to do this after all though as I just got an email informing me that I’ve won the Nigerian lottery again :) Seriously,

    • Mike Korner

      Update: I may not need to do this after all though as I just got an email informing me that I’ve won the Nigerian lottery again!

      If only it was that easy! :)

      • Anonymous

        hey I got that same email

      • http://www.soulfilledlife.com Heather Gray

        Does this mean I should not have sent in my bank account # and pin to collect my winnings? (lol)

    • http://sallyg.me Sally G.

      You mean I didn’t win the Nigerian Lottery? Uugghh …

  • http://sallyg.me Sally G.

    As I’ve noted in a few comment replies below – I’m letting emotional energy get in the way of solid planning, responsible action and financial control. I’m working on a Business Plan now (with the help of Lisa Hines, a participant in this series and an all-round amazing woman) – and I’m stopped dead at the Financial portion. I really appreciate the advice offered so far and the honesty in the comments that have followed. This is a block I REALLY want to eliminate forever ~ and I need to get over the fact that it’s embarrassing to be 45 years old and not have a clue what to do. I’m ready to risk being vulnerable and open to learn what I need to know so that my Life Wheel ceases to be so lopsided.

    • Anonymous

      I can relate. I too have stopped dead in my business plan at the financials

    • Anonymous

      It’s incredibly embarrassing at 58 y.o. !! Thanks for your comments, Sally. (((HUGS))))

    • http://www.accessabundance.com/ Teresa Romain

      Hey Sally… BREATHE!

      Then check out my reply to Gina above that I think might help shift out of embarrassment into empowerment around this. I’m not going to promise you it will be easy… but I can tell you it’s possible… but you’ve got to drop the judgment you have about your situation and yourself to be able to move forward (step at a time) toward what you want.

  • http://www.ginaparris.com GinaParris

    Oh man – I’m still working on my blessed LIST from yesterday!

    Thanks so much for this – for the recognition that it all comes from the inside and its powerful even when it seems daunting to just start!
    I just took my head out of the sand to look at all the auto-matic withdrawls from my accounts and cancelled 3 memberships. I also canceled our Country Club membership this month – which I will miss a lot more in the summer when I won’t be lying around the pool with my kids and girlfriends.

    And, I gave money away today – to the precious people that take care of our Compassion child so they can care for their orphans in Haiti.

    The hardest part for some reason is just looking the numbers in the face. “Sex and Money” huh? I wish one was as easy for me as the other!

    • http://www.accessabundance.com/ Teresa Romain

      Hi Gina!

      You go girl! One important question: How did you celebrate (or reward) yourself for taking these powerful first “head out of the sand” actions! That is SO important to help you KEEP your head out of the sand! Otherwise, you’ll only remember how “hard” it was and/or you’ll wind up feeling deprived… and that will bite you in the butt or you’ll stick your head back in the sand… which makes getting your butt kicked pretty easy!

      I HEAR you about the hard part is just looking at the numbers. But the NUMBERS are not what makes it hard… it’s the THOUGHT (usually judgment) that you have about the numbers. Try this….

      IAMNOWHERE

      What do you see? Do you see “I am nowhere”? (Most people do at first.)

      Do you also see it says “I am now here”?

      Notice how you feel when you see “I am nowhere”. Then notice the difference when you see “I am now here”.

      NOTE: The letters IAMNOWHERE did not change… but I’m going to imagine you sure felt a change within you. And the thing that causes that is that “I am now here” is neutral – you’re not saying HERE is good or bad, right or wrong… you’re just acknowledging that it’s where you’re at. “I am nowhere” is quite different… and loaded with judgment that disempowers you.

      So – as you keep looking the numbers in the face… remember to BREATHE! And then remember to keep seeing those numbers as “I AM NOW HERE”… you may not like where you’re at (HERE), but you need to know where you’re at if you’re ever going to be able to get where you want to go. (Kind of like MapQuest… you put in your starting location AND your ending location.)

      Hope this helps!

      • http://sallyg.me Sally G.

        Oh my gosh Teresa – that is soooo helpful. “I am now here” removes all judgement, it is what it is. In fact, it’s actually lit up a little, because I BREATHED – and in so doing, I filled the room with Potential and ‘where I should be’ had to leave. Thank you …

        • http://www.accessabundance.com/ Teresa Romain

          I got goose-bumps reading your reply, Sally… so you filled up more than the room you were in with your potential…. I felt it all the way here in Wisconsin! Congratulations!

          • http://www.ginaparris.com GinaParris

            No kidding, that was great. I sort of have tears in my eyes. And it did not occur to me to celebrate at all. I don’t know why. I’m celebrating with each one who takes steps towards her power.

        • Anonymous

          Sally and Teresa…
          WOW…..that “took my breath away”….I AM HERE NOW !! Empowering words for me, today, in this moment. It fills me with HOPE that I do indeed have the power & now, the tools, to take my first steps in slaying this dragon. All of you ROCK iT in my book….It’s just a blessing to be here. Thanks Sarah for making this happen! And, Colin, thank you, for an excellent post!!!

          • http://www.accessabundance.com/ Teresa Romain

            YAY for you Deb! There’s a song I know called “You’ve Got the Power” that’s playing in my head right now.

            However, rather than “slay” the dragon… make friends with it. Money – and your relationship with it – has so much to teach you to help you fully express who you are and live to your fullest potential. Besides.. the idea of slaying it sounds kind of painful… for you AND the dragon! :-)

          • Anonymous

            I know that song….now I can’t get it out of my head…lolol. And you are absolutely correct when you say that I only need change MY relationship w/ money!!
            Many thanks to you, AGAIN, Teresa (((HUGS)))

          • http://www.accessabundance.com/ Teresa Romain

            Hugs back to you! :-)

  • Audrey_Godwin

    Sarah and Colin,

    What a fantastic way to talk about our relationship with money. I too had to re-read the post and ask myself, like Teresa has am I practicing what I teach and coach my clients around this subject. Absolutely! And being in my mid 40′s it is always an inside job first before it shows up in the world. Changing our relationship with money by putting it in its proper perspective is key. Money is a tool that allows us to show up big and make an impact in the world in the service of others.

    I love Michelle’s affirmation that she deserves to be rich because she adds value to other’s lives. That is a woman who truly understands her worth! I personally look at it from the perspective that being broke serves no one. And I was created to be a blessing to others – I can only do that with true wealth – spirit, soul (includes the mind) and the physical manifestation through money (as one of the vehicles).

    I so appreciate everyone’s insight and perspective here.

  • http://twitter.com/cherrywoodburn Cherry Woodburn

    I’m good with money. That being said my income has dropped significantly and don’t have the cash buffer I once did. I need to do due diligence on figuring out what Financial Freedom means for me now and what I’m going to do to attain it. Thanks Colin for sharing your story and wisdom

  • http://twitter.com/SarahFirestine Sarah Firestine

    This is great! People need to realize that they tell their money what to do, not the other way around!

    • Anonymous

      My struggle with telling my money where to go right now, is that because of being on an extremely limited income and raising four kids (read: 9600 last year total income) the fact that my kids need to eat etc and bills need to get paid mean that essentially my money dictates things, which is a bit of a hard vicious cycle to break free of). So this financial challenge is definitely going to be that, a challenge. But I am in this to win this so it will happen and financial freedom is something I will experience

      • http://www.accessabundance.com/ Teresa Romain

        Hey Kristie! Your comment brings to our discussion one of the hardest questions to address: How do I become prosperous in the face of real, tangible limitation or scarcity? I don’t have the answer (and what I do know would be WAY too much to post)… but I can tell you this (and it’s from my own personal experience and that of my clients). But let me share some ideas…

        The first step is to stop focusing on lack, limitation or “not enough” – even when you have all sorts of “evidence” to justify that focus. It begins by practicing gratitude and appreciation for what you already have – no matter how “small” that amount. (And if keep referring to your income as small or the like, you’re probably not fully do this.

        Simultaneously, it’s about focusing your mental energy on what it is you want – not just in the form of external results like money , but in terms of who you want to be (qualities, habits, experiences). Use affirmations. Create a vision board. Create a vacuum in your life into which prosperity can flow. That means throwing and giving things away. It also means letting go of old emotions, resentment, hurts, anger – all of those things block your energy… and since (as Sarah already commented), “money is energy”… they block your ability to access more money. And you probably need to do what I can some “internal reprogramming”.

        Finally, it means using what you already have in ways that are consistent with what you want to have. If you WANT to save, then you must BE a saver today – even if that can only be $1 a week in your present situation. (Remember, I started with $25.) If you want to BE someone who is debt-free, then you must take action – no matter how small – that is congruent with that. If you want to have money to enjoy your life and give yourself treats, then you must begin that today (not when you’re making more money.) Now – given your financial reality, you may not be able to give yourself more than 25 cents a week or month to have fun (buy some bubble gum and blow bubbles!), but you must start to use the money you have today in the same manner you would use your money if you had more. All of the ingredients must be there… the proportions may need to be small given your current reality… but that’s where you get to practice the GRATITUDE and appreciation step I already mentioned.

        Hope this helps…

  • Anonymous

    OK, I did it- looked at where I am, and where I want to be, how much it would take to get me there. It’s overwhelming to think of how much I’d need to live as I’d truly like to, as I am nearing 60, intend to live a long time, and have limited savings. So I set goals for 2010. That’s all, just 2010. Sort of a year to get finances in better shape, pay off some debt, start saving. Teresa, what do you think about that? And now, the big question is how will I reach those goals?

    • http://www.accessabundance.com/ Teresa Romain

      WAHOO for you!!! First and foremost… did you CELEBRATE taking these courageous actions! Gotta give yourself that positive reinforcement – not just for results, but for the actions you take! Especially ones that are overcoming longstanding, disempowering habits… and overcoming huge internal blocks! You go!

      Your plan sounds great for a start! This is your year to start building the habits that will carry you to the financial health (and wealth!) you desire! Now you need a plan for following your plan. And Sherman’s ROCKing process of breaking it down is one part of that plan. But you also need a plan for your money… if you want to pay off some start saving and pay off some debt.. then you need to have a plan for how you will use your money day in/day out that will allow you to do that.

      (BTW – regarding paying off your debt, make sure you learn a system for doing that… I teach it in my programs but you can learn it from others…but it’s important you have a system to follow… you cannot pay off debt effectively if you’re just doing it randomly).

      Some people might think of this as a budget… but that’s not what it is. It’s an Abundance Plan… and it’s whole purpose is to give you a plan for using the abundance (yes! abundance) you currently have in a way that supports your short-term and long-term financial abundance. Targets for how you will use your money and for what. Tracking where your money is going. Adjusting your targets as you go. Hitting those targets. Making sure those target include some amount of money for savings, debt freedom AND fun and recreation. Even if it’s only $1… it’s the habit, not the amount that you’re building this year.

      And then CELEBRATE each and every step you take that moves you in the direction you want to go. I will share with you the same quote from Maria Nemeth I shared in another Reply I posted: The good news is that every time you take Authentic Action with money, whatever that action is, you are being financially successful. Financial success is doing what you said you would do with the money, with ease. It’s something you demonstrate in the moment, not a goal out in front of you…

      Hugs (and oxygen!) to you!

  • http://BestLifeDesign.com drmolliemarti

    You know you’re singing to the choir here (THANKS for quoting my book!). Wealth Building is one of the 12 Factors of Business (and Life!) Success. I see so many people seek – and even worship – success but they give little thought to how they are going to create it.Your blog – and Sarah’s Change Your Game program – are SO needed. It turns my stomach to reach out to amazing, talented, gifted and giving people on twitter who I see as an ideal fit for my programs and hear an immediate response of, “I can’t afford it.” They don’t even consider investing in themselves (…now there’s one thing that will keep you in the poor house) and they have not built up the skill of shifting into asking, “I want to do this…HOW can I afford it?” This isn’t personal to my programs/services (they are not for everyone!) – it’s about the masses and masses of people who choose to spend their days on non-profit making activities because it makes them feel good and is so much easier than getting the heck off the computer, bringing their full gifts to the world, and making the money they deserve. They are not only depriving themselves and their loved ones of financial security, but they are depriving others of help they desperately need – this includes both helping their ideal clients and writing out big fat checks to others in need who will never come anywhere close to having the opportunity these people have to become wealthy. We’ve just experienced a life classroom that offers you a check-in point: Are you able to freely give to your heart’s desire to help our neighbors in Haiti? Many self-help gurus proclaim, “You were born rich!” My take, as you pointed out, is that you are born with the right to pursue wealth and the potential to be rich. For the people here, income is largely self-determined. How do I know this? You are privileged, literate, capable, dripping with potential, and motivated enough to participate in this challenge! So…what are you going to DO to change your game?? Success leaves footprints. Wealth building leaves footprints. Follow them!Colin, I know this is turning into a rant (and you’re not even here to tell me to STOP!) – I know you’re with me on this. You were the one who asked if I’d include Wealth Building as a core piece of the Heartland Mastermind and you were right on point. You were the one brave enough to take this topic head on to the benefit of this whole community. Thank you!!!OK, rant over (…don’t even get me started on the sex thing. Haha) Actually, that brings up one final point (I promise!). Look at how you are defining wealth. Focus on an enriched life, not a rich life. My wealth definitely includes financials, but it starts with spirituality, relationships, health and inner peace.

    • http://www.accessabundance.com/ Teresa Romain

      Hey Dr. Mollie!

      In keeping with your “singing to the choir” theme, I wish I could queue up Sidney Poitier from “Lilies of the Field” right now…

      A-MEN… A-MEN… A-A-MEN, AMEN (sing it over)…

      Your passion and power shines through powerfully!!!!!! And what I most related to (because I hear it from people interested in my programs too) is how people have not yet learned how to shift “I can’t afford it” to “HOW can I afford it? What actions can I take (including uncomfortable actions) that would make it possible?” With the former, we give our power to our money … and your question places the power where it needs to be (and really is)… within us! Thanks for the reminder!

      • Anonymous

        We’re having a MONEY component in the Heartland Mastermind?? GULP. Breathe in . . . breathe out. Got it!

        • http://BestLifeDesign.com drmolliemarti

          Um…Colin talked me in to it :-) Oh come on, you know you want (need!!!) it. Everyone who wants to live their best life must learn to use money as the success TOOL it is. No more hiding. No more looking away. It’s time to get real, Sister!

      • http://BestLifeDesign.com drmolliemarti

        Great, now going to have to ring up one of my psychologist friends… “So how exactly do I get Sidney Poitier out of my head?” LOL

        It’s ALL about reclaiming our power. To that, I say A-MEN (…A-MEN… A-A-MEN, AMEN)

        • http://www.accessabundance.com/ Teresa Romain

          Sing it over! :-)

  • http://elizabethpottsweinstein.com ElizabethPW

    Now I want everyone to think about something — you may not need $12M. You may have a different number.

    A *huge* thing for me to have realized in the last year is that I really don’t care about tons of things that cost money. AND that many things we *think* cost a lot of money can be done (or experienced) in tons of different ways that don’t cost as much money.

    I completely changed my business to reduce the expenses & get the same results. Am getting rid of most of my possessions (that really just clutter up the house … I mean, I’ve never used 1/2 of my wedding gifts, why do I need them?), am downsizing to a smaller place, I might even get rid of my car. When I travel, I fly Southwest & share a hotel room or stay with friends, go to local hangouts instead of expensive tourist traps. I spent my money on travel & experiences instead of more stuff.

    So don’t forget about the flip side of money … knowing what money *doesn’t* buy you and how much money you really need to have the life you want.

    • http://www.soulfilledlife.com Heather Gray

      Well said!

    • http://BestLifeDesign.com drmolliemarti

      SOOOO agree with your point on experiences, Elizabeth. I share your viewpoint – life is about the love we give and receive and the experiences we have/memories we make.

      As you point out, there are 2 ways to “make” money – by making and by saving. While I’m all for simplifying (you continue to inspire me in this department!), it’s a fact that there’s a floor effect at some point. That’s why it’s important for people to keep their eye on lifting the ceiling, too.

      With your background in financial planning, I know you understand the need to consider the long-term so this isn’t directed toward you. But I think it’s a danger that people will justify “Oh I really don’t need much to live on to be happy” and they aren’t putting enough away for their later years. No, not everybody’s number will be $12M – but the sad reality is that too many people are one crisis away from disaster – and it doesn’t need to be this way.

    • http://www.accessabundance.com/ Teresa Romain

      Thanks for sharing this Elizabeth! I keep reminding myself that I can keep attracting more money… but if I don’t retain and invest some of what I make… I’ll forever have to keep making that money just to stay in the same place! NO THANKS! I think it’s for all of us (I know it is for me) to find that balance between expanding ourselves to access more and yet appreciate and use what we have so we don’t NEED to have or make more…

      • http://elizabethpottsweinstein.com ElizabethPW

        But I really do have a different attitude … I’m not trying to gather money so I can get to another place. There’s no where I want to go. This is it. Yes, I want enough $ for my adventures & to pay for shelter/food/gas & stuff my kid needs & my health & savings for if/when I am too old/sick to earn more money (as in seriously unable to use my brain). Otherwise … I don’t plan to retire to live life … this is it. :)

        • http://www.accessabundance.com/ Teresa Romain

          That is so great Elizabeth! I can really hear that you’re where you want to be… my comment was 100% about me because I’m not there yet and your message reminded me of where I’m heading! Thanks again for sharing!

  • Anonymous

    Wow! I go to lunch and look what happens! Clearly money has powerful powerful energy to bring up such strong emotions for everyone. I applaud you all for a) looking at it b) expressing it and c) staying open to it. That’s the only way to harness this energy for ourselves. Otherwise it just runs all over the place like a wild bucking bronco. Learn to gently tame this animal, and it will carry you for a lifetime.

  • Anonymous

    Great article. Thank you Teresa for stepping in. Quite a bit of what you said has really resonated within me.

    Let’s just start with the breathe. Next I will take a percentage and put it away. I have been using excuses lately not to put money away. Well that has stopped. I feel very constricted with this article todya so I know this is something I need to address.

    • http://www.accessabundance.com/ Teresa Romain

      You’re right on Tricia… with our comment “I feel constricted with this article today so I know this is something I need to address.” Do you have five minutes? If so, I invite you to re-read the article paying very close attention to the sensations in your body and the emotions that come up. When you’re done reading Colin’s post, just BE with those sensations and emotions.. FEEL them, let them be what they are… just be with them like you might sit quietly with a friend who is sick or who is crying and just needs to cry. Maybe in this process you’ll get a deeper insight into the thoughts or beliefs you have that are causing the constriction. That may give you awareness of some of the internal blocks you will need to release/shift. OR maybe no new insight will arise. But by being willing to be with and FEEL whatever it is, you will automatically be less scared of it.

      Then be sure to give yourself a hug for taking such an empowering action when you’re done…

      Oh…. and be sure to read my reply to Gina from earlier today about IAMNOWHERE…. that might help with the constriction some too..

  • http://www.soulfilledlife.com Heather Gray

    Yup — great conversation. Sarah — I like your quote “learn to gently tame this animal, and it will carry you for a lifetime”
    That and Sally’s reminders to breathe :)

    I like seeing the concrete #’s. And, got a bit of a GAAAAAAAAAAAAP to fill for 12.5 million.
    But have heard once you get to your first 6 it goes a lot faster.

    • http://www.soulfilledlife.com Heather Gray

      That was “Teresa” reminding us to breathe. Ok – breathing now. (Sorry Teresa!)

    • http://www.accessabundance.com/ Teresa Romain

      Hey Heather!

      Glad your breathing! I liked that quote/image from Sarah too!!! With the emphasis on GENTLY… :-)

  • Anonymous

    AND for many of us, maybe it’s time to come to terms with what the lifestyle you want really costs. For me, it’s not about THINGS at all. It’s about support.

    To give my greatest gifts and not spend time bogged down in the things I not only don’t love to do, but I am not good at doing, requires a lot of support. I’ve had to come to terms with that because that support means I’m going to lay out a lot of money.

    I created my money map process because I was tired of making decisions about money without any sort of a framework and when I went through it and did the process for myself, it brought up a whole lot of emotional stuff because I had to acknowledge for myself that my number is $50k/mo. Seeing it there all in black and white made me want to puke.

    But, once I got over that and realized okay, that’s just what it is – now, let’s look at how we can make that number doing what I really enjoy doing the most – I was acting from a place of empowerment, not fear and not blindness to what was right in front of me.

    And I stopped taking my businesses for granted and starting loving them a whole lot more. Which meant I was doing all the things I needed to do to make sure that they’d continue to support me and my family for years, like legal stuff and insurance stuff and financial and tax stuff.

    So, making a lot of money doesn’t necessarily have to be about buying lots of stuff. It can also be about having the kind of support you want and need to do what you do best.

    Right now, in my house – two cleaning ladies, my business manager and his girlfriend (who helps with the kids now and then) and my personal assistant. I love that my creativity can support all of these people and they support me to be able to give my greatest gifts.

  • http://www.theridingwriter.com Stephanie Corum

    We have been putting money away every month over the years. Not much, but a little. Then when my husband lost his job last year and the stock market took its nose dive, it was very tempting to keep that little amount every month and put it towards more immediate needs. But I listened to my financial advisor who kept telling me to keep doing it no matter what. We have continued to make due. Our finances are still extremely tight, but at least the stock market has improved. This post is a good reminder to go back and review our retirement goals, especially since our circumstances have changed so much in the last year. I’ll make an appointment with our financial planner next week to review where we are at and where we want to be. Thank you!

  • sarahrobinson

    Notes to the Tribe:

    Keep connecting, keep engaging and DON”T STOP!!

    Notes for Today

    1) Today’s theme song is: Let's Dance by David Bowie: http://tinysong.com/74PJ
    2) I got an email from Colin. He lives in Poland and they are experiencing some major internet disruptions. He hopes to be able to join us and respond to comments as soon as possible. In the meantime, we can help each other with this one, right?!
    3) I am asking something extra of the tribe in response to the crisis in Haiti. On the home page of this blog there is a chipin widget that allows people to make secure online donations to help the people of Haiti. If you can make even the smallest donation, it will help. I simply cannot imagine what they are going through in that tiny impoverished country.
    4) If you have signed up to be on the email list (you get little extras from me), you MUST complete the double opt-in process to get them. Look for an email from me in your inbox or in your spam folder and click on the link inside it.
    5) I have set up a Face book Group for us: http://www.facebook.com/#/group.php?gid=2460148…
    6) I built a list on twitter of all the guest bloggers to make it easy for you to follow them: http://twitter.com/#/list/SarahRobinson/thirtyd…
    7) There are also two twitter lists of participants in 30 Days. You will find them here: http://twitter.com/MirkoGosch/escapingmediocrity and http://twitter.com/The_Promo_Guy/game-changing

  • LaConsuelo

    Colin this is completely brilliant and utterly confronting because you have me pegged! What I particularly appreciate is you speaking from the point of view of being 40+. I never wanted to even calculate what I needed to retire because it seemed an unattainable goal, particularly after the reversals of 2008/2009. Here's how it's gone in my head: if I do what I know to do so “save up,” I'll have to live like hermit now and I probably won't even attain the $12M, so what the heck – carpe diem. What bunk. I too have simplified and I'm actually happier – devoting my financial resources to things that will really make a difference in my life instead of just “stuff”. It's been an exercise in gratitude. I now feel ready to take on your savings challenge and quit pretending I'm not in charge of this life I've got! KA-CHING!

  • sarahrobinson

    Ya'll, I have asked Teresa Romain to step in and help guide this discussion until Colin can re-join us. She knows WAY more about this than I do so once again, my List comes in handy. :-)

    Thank you Teresa!

  • kristieschwanebeck

    ok, so wow. First off, I'll be honest, the 12.5 million did scare me….a lot. It''s funny because I had never really thought to write my financial goals down but why not? I am writing all my other goals down, thanks to Sherman. I think that combining this post with Sherman's post is going to be integral. Write a financial goal for myself for the end of this year, and then break it down into the quarterly, monthly and weekly goals. This certainly gets me thinking in a new light. I also like the idea of putting aside one days income per week. Colin, your book Wisdom Notes, sounds amazing. That's now on my reading list. Thank you for the paradigm shift, I look forward to more!!!

  • http://twitter.com/rosecasanova Rose Casanova

    Very powerful post. I will reread this over and over. I have been a starving artist for too long (and I can't even draw a stickman). I am a little younger than you and the realization is often frightening of where I could end up if I don't start investing in myself. Sometimes it saddens me that I've put myself on the back burner. Thank you for your insight.

  • michelesfakianos

    I read “The Secret” over a year ago and believe that just about anything is possible. So, the $12.5 didn't scare me, but it intimidates me. Deep down I know I have the abilities to do whatever I want to do, however it's that top layer of doubt that blocks my every move. I have obtained a Computer Programming degree, my RN (BSN) license, Certification as a Legal Nurse Consultant and recently a Realtor Sales Associate license and yet my income is no where close to what it needs to be. I have a 'plan' in my head, but at this point it is worth writing down and posting on my vision board. Perhaps looking at it will help destroy that first level of doubt!

  • sarahrobinson

    You ARE in charge! And here is what I have learned about money: if you ignore it, it ignores you. :-)

  • sarahrobinson

    Hey Kristie!
    My hope is that all the posts will dovetail together nicely so that we are all crystal clear by the end of 30 Days. I think your plan for getting it broken is crucial. And yes – Colin's book is brilliant!

  • kristieschwanebeck

    Oooo Vision board, I really like that Idea, And I could put my monthly/weekly goals from Sherman's post in that. Now I am e energized to tackle my cubicle of a home office……..

  • http://www.thevirtualasst.com Michelle Mangen

    Colin – great post! I recently attended Harv Eker’s Millionaire Mind Intensive Weekend and was amazed to learn the power of compounded interest on just a mere $5000 a year saved up for 20 years. It’s my intent to get that $5000/yr going for myself and my son.

    I do not, however, have a clear financial goal that can be stated in less than two sentences. I will get it done!

    • http://www.accessabundance.com/ Teresa Romain

      Awesome Michelle! And then you can support yourself even more by creating a vision board that represents your goal!

  • sarahrobinson

    I've so been where you are Rose. A little grieving may be in order so you CAN begin investing in yourself. And good for you for recognizing what you want to do. :-)

  • http://twitter.com/marksherrick Mark Sherrick

    Today has been wicked busy for me, so I dunno how much I’ll be able to participate, but I do want to thank Colin for his post today. He hit upon a very valuable topic, no pun intended.

    • http://www.accessabundance.com/ Teresa Romain

      Hey Mark! Despite being “wicked busy”, are you still going do SOMETHING to R.O.C.K. along so I get to celebrate with you? :-)

      • http://twitter.com/marksherrick Mark Sherrick

        Indeed I am. I have been rocking along, and actually took a HUGE step this afternoon, it’s what was keeping me so busy. Yay me! How bout you?

        • http://www.accessabundance.com/ Teresa Romain

          Yep! Even with the unexpected change in my day that showed up in my inbox as an email from Sarah asking me to help out in Colin’s absence! So YAY us!

  • michelesfakianos

    My vision board is always within my site. I believe it works more on the subconscious level (always seeing it), but either way it works great for me. Good luck!

  • http://twitter.com/mixxpix Michelle Rumney

    Thanks Colin – your post has come as a timely reminder for me personally to re-connect with T Harv Eker's Wealth affirmations – these are from his fab 'Millionare Mindset Intensive' seminar and I'd forgotten how powerful they are.
    So, here we go, my top 3 financial affirmations for 2010:

    “I put money into my Financial Freedom Fund every day” (at least 10% of everything I earn)

    “I deserve to be rich because I add value to other people's lives”

    “My capacity to earn, hold and grow money expands day-by-day”

    I feel better now! Thanks :-)

  • kristieschwanebeck

    well I had never heard of that term, and what I'm thinking is to put visual goals ie-pictoral images of where I want to holiday etc on it so that it is always within my view and then that would ensure I am always mindful of it and it is ever present. My hope is then that when I find myself wasting time, those images n my subconcious will kick my sorry butt into gear…

  • http://twitter.com/thrivecoaching Vanessa Torre

    Sigh. The financial goal. I have been SO good at putting money aside. I have maxed my 401K contribution for as long back as I can remember and I have a good size nest egg building. Sadly right now I have NO liquid funds (the bad happened here too: divorce, house sale in a horrific market, values dropped even more, pay cuts, major increase in kid costs, etc.)

    My goal for right now is to clear every bit of debt so I can leave my “day job” and follow my calling and passion. Terrifying on so many accounts. I am chipping away at it and have set a 6-month goal to get there. I have learned many lessons along the way as well about simplifying life. AND, I have done some serious thinking about what I want that retirement to look like. Money follows positive thought shifts.

    Thanks Colin, for the great things to think about.

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  • Ava Diamond (@feistywoman)

    Wonderful post, Colin. And I absolutely agree that all wealth begins in consciousness. Having started my speaking and consulting business in 1995, it's been a long time since I had a “steady paycheck,” paid by an employer. And I've operated on the faith that the clients will flow in.

    And they do. Yet not at the level I'd need to amass the kind of figure you talk about. Or even close. It's definitely an area where I need to place more focus. And I know the place to do that is at the level of consciousness, coupled with some clear goals.

    For the readers of Colin's post today, if you've not subscribed to his weekly Wisdom Notes, you're missing out on something wonderful. What Colin didn't tell you about them in the description above is that 100% of the proceeds from the subscriptions go to benefit orphans. So subscribing is a win-win for you and the children.

  • http://twitter.com/mckra1g mckra1g

    Wow. Money buys choices. I appreciate this opportunity to face my fears about finances. I'm currently reading Your Money or Your Life (re-published version) which incorporates sustainablity and environmental perspectives to the way we make value judgments with our purchases.

    It's enlightening. I like how multiple versions of the same lesson have been crossing my path lately. Great post! Thanks much.

  • sarahrobinson

    Money is energy plain and simple. And I think the idea of putting it on your vision board is GREAT!!!

  • sarahrobinson

    Feeling good around money is more than half the battle Michelle. Good for you for getting yourself back into that space. :-)

  • sarahrobinson

    Wow Vanessa. Your plan is amazing. though it may feel challenging at times, you are making serious progress toward making a life that YOU want. Way to take up your power!

  • http://twitter.com/SpiritusShelagh Shelagh at Spiritus

    Great choice, Sarah!

    Teresa REALLY knows her stuff!

  • Teresa Romain

    Hey Colin, Sarah & Tribe!

    Since this “money stuff” and prosperity is what I do, I read Colin's post this morning and could imagine all the people in this game stop who would stop breathing as they read it. So -just in case you're one of them…

    Please BREATHE!

    Colin is so right on… and is probably not really saying anything you don't already know and haven't heard. But the challenge is… what are we doing about it? Are we PRACTICING this? Are we putting it in action in our lives today?

    Let me be up front. Sarah sent me an email this morning and asked if I could help out and make comments/reply today in the role of “guest expert” given Colin's predicament. And if Colin can't be here today, I will be honored to offer what support I can.

    But know that I am still in this 30-Days Game as a participant – just like I'm in the business I do (teaching and coaching and training on abundance and prosperity – especially with money) as a participant. I am the poster child for the old saying “You teach best what you most need to learn and practice yourself.” (And I am NOT kidding!)

    Which is why I had to ask myself as I read your blog, Colin…”Okay, Teresa, you know this stuff. You teach this stuff. But are you practicing it?”

    And my answer is “YES”. I'm not yet at the level of savings and investing that Colin is at (not even close). I'm not yet at the level that I want to be at (again, not even close). And there's a lot I don't know and will need to learn about investing. But that's what makes his message of having a financial goal so important – especially now that we all have a method of R.O.C.K.ing toward that goal (courtesy of Sherman's blog on Day 2).

    I'm happy that I could answer “YES” today. Five years ago, I couldn't. (Full disclosure. For my entire life PRIOR to five years ago, my answer would have been “no”.)

    Oh, I KNEW I needed to do it. And I understood why. And, yes, I even coached and taught my clients to do it. But I kept waiting until I was making MORE money so that then I would have “enough” to save. By my calculations, I had to be saving and investing $1,500-$2,500 a month – at a MINIMUM – to make up for lost time. And even though I live a very simply life, I didn't have that much.

    So, I kept waiting until I made enough to have enough to start saving and investing. And I kept ploughing any money I made back into my business so I could make MORE money. (You know, “you have to spend money to make money?” I could be a poster child for that saying, too!

    And during that time (pretty much my entire adult life), I was making ZERO money with my money. I had ZERO in savings and reserves. If I had been unable to keep making the money in my business, we wouldn't have lasted ONE month – unless you count our available credit on credit cards an “emergency fund”. (Been there, done that too! NOT a good idea!)

    I kept waiting until I had “enough” and, as a consequence, never started. So – a little more than five years ago, I finally started. I remember it clearly. Each week, when I deposited my paycheck from my business into our checking account, I put $25 of it (off the top) into savings.

    And what I discovered – by simply STARTING – is that it's not the AMOUNT that matters so much in the beginning – it's the HABIT. And I had started to develop a prosperous and empowering HABIT with my money.

    Funny thing is… I didn't miss the $25 each week. I didn't experience scarcity. All the bills got paid. We still had food to eat. We still got to have fun in life. And… get this… I actually started making more money. And then I went from $25 a week to $50… and then $100 and then upward from there. I still don't miss it. I don't feel like I'm living a deprived life because I'm saving (and investing) that money.

    Au contraire! I LOVE seeing my money grow… and just seeing it grow, bit by bit, has me feel empowered and prosperous TODAY! And that, I know, will support me to keep R.O.C.K.ing along toward my other financial goals!

  • michelesfakianos

    That's exactly what it's for. Once I achieve the particular vision, I replace it with a new one. It's like a wish board!

  • michelesfakianos

    Absolutely – thanks!!!

  • susan

    Colin,
    thanks so much for the post. Wow 12 million is lots. I definitely need to get to work on this!

  • http://www.facebook.com/pages/Caring-Creates-/228986840568 Sally G.

    Thank you for adding to Colin's post Teresa. Reading your words was like looking into the mirror ~ I'm very much in the 'waiting to have enough' place. $25 per pay cheque into Savings doesn't seem nearly as daunting as 1 day's pay per week (please don't read that as disrespect Colin – that is definitely a goal I will be working towards). I also like the image you shared of who I can be … someone who develops the HABIT of saving until I'm in a place where I can fully maximize the wisdom Colin has shared. I seem to operate from a place of 'shame' when it comes to money ~ and this is something I'm really trying to change.

  • Anonymous

    This one scares me so much I almost didn’t comment. I don’t know if I’m younger than most of the tribe or what, but I feel way out of my league. I only recently got a job with benefits and it took me nearly a year to start contributing to the 401(k) but I did it. I live a pretty simple life myself. The only “things” I really care about are my computer and my accessories (which I purchase sparingly). It’s hard to save when you look at your budget and see literally no disposable income after bills are paid. But that’s all part of what I’m here for. I miss being independent and really want to become a full-time freelancer. I’m not even sure how to get there honestly, but I will and hopefully by the end of the year.

    I guess that’s all sort of nonsequitor and this post is about determining a financial goal. So I guess that IS my goal, to be independent and work on my own terms. Is that a cop out? Should I be aspiring to more?

    • http://sallyg.me Sally G.

      I think that’s a HUGE goal kymlee. Not a cop-out at all. I’ve been a stay-at-home Mom for a little more than 14 years and re-entering the work force as a viable Freelancer is almost as difficult as starting out having never done it before. This is your reality – and you’re stepping into it with passion and commitment, or you wouldn’t even be here in this challenge. I’m not an expert, but I’d say – if you can put specific steps behind ‘independent’ and ‘work on my own terms’ and then apply the action and effort necessary ~ you’ll be tracking towards a lifestyle that Colin Lewis has earned!

      • Anonymous

        Phew! Well that makes me feel better. I think its a pretty big deal. And I’ve been doing a bit of research and connecting with other freelancers I know asking their advice, trying to figure out how to market myself and applying to various freelance jobs. So I’m taking steps to make it real.

    • http://www.accessabundance.com/ Teresa Romain

      Hey Kymlee!

      That is a great goal… yet it doesn’t really give you clear direction or plan for getting there. So, in addition to having that goal of being independent, you need to put some numbers to it. How much income do you need to achieve it? What would your revenues need to be from freelancing so that you could cover your business expenses and have the personal financial income you want? Get specific with numbers.. BOTH the ones for where you want to go AND your present numbers (where you’re at today.) Then use Sherman’s R.O.C.K.ing process for taking steps (even small ones like I’ve described in some of my other comments) to move in that direction this year. Even if it takes you a couple of years… it’s worth it!

      And.. to your less specific goal of being “independent”… that would be something to capture with images on a vision board as has been discussed elsewhere in today’s discussion!

    • Anonymous

      Hey Kym!
      Baby steps apply to money just like everything else. :-) You can do this!

  • kristieschwanebeck

    Thanks again for this Sarah, I can already tell that I am going to miss this once our 30 days are up!!! I eagerly await each morning email from you saying the post is up!!!

  • http://www.facebook.com/pages/Caring-Creates-/228986840568 Sally G.

    I'd like to add my admiration and support to Sarah's, Vanessa. Your resilience is inspiring!

  • http://twitter.com/JoyFull_deb Deb Bruser

    OK…Money…(argh)
    Thanks Colin for sharing your financial experiences with us! And thanks Sarah for getting Teresa to “sub” in for awhile until Colin can get online.

    Teresa….I'm the one who stopped breathing!!! Colin found my weakness and my shame with this financial post/goal. I am way too embarrassed to post “my truth” at this very moment…I feel as though I've been punched in the gut.

    However, I WILL regroup and post another response in a little while.
    p.s. loved the song today Sarah!!

  • http://www.facebook.com/pages/Caring-Creates-/228986840568 Sally G.

    “I deserve to be rich because I add value to other people's lives” ~ wow, that just pierced me. I'm going to put that on the bulletin board next to my computer. Thank you Michelle!

  • Teresa Romain

    Hi Vanessa! You are SO on the right track about clearing every bit of debt. I'm not quite there (still have the mortgage and one debt in my business) – but not having that claim on your income is SO freeing and empowering. I work with a LOT of my clients on this issue… teach them that debt is not just a claim on your income, it's a claim on your time and energy (since that's what we exchange to make money). It's that claim on our freedom that keeps us having to do things we don't want to do to make money (like your “day job” that is not congruent with your passion and calling.) So – you keep thinking those FREEING thoughts and keep ROCKing (and chipping) away at it!

  • Teresa Romain

    Hey Michelle! When did you go to MMI???? It's been YEARS for me… but just reading your post and affirmations reconnected me with that experience too! Also had me realize that there's one it will support me to start using again too… the one about “adding value to other people's lives”. Thanks!

  • Teresa Romain

    Hi Michele! Boy – could I relate to your post (as you might guess if you read mine). This (meaning YOU!) are SO worth writing this down and posting on your vision board. And, even if you are nowhere near where you need to be, I know (as I wrote) that taking even a small step upward starts things rolling that can't happen until you start rolling! (Or maybe I should say R.O.C.King??)

  • http://www.facebook.com/pages/Caring-Creates-/228986840568 Sally G.

    If it helps Deb – you are not alone. I, too, come from a place of shame/embarrassment when it comes to money. And although intellectually I know this is detrimental and illogical ~ the emotional roots are entrenched to a degree that every time I think I've unearthed them … it seems I have not. Please know that while our embarrassments are huge to us – our view of them is often warped, and the perspectives and support of others can heal and perhaps even eradicate erroneous beliefs.

  • Teresa Romain

    Vision boards are INCREDIBLY powerful and you're right, Michele, they work at a subconscious as well as conscious. One of the things I've learned and incorporate into the training I do is that our subconscious minds record EVERYTHING 24/7/365. Even if we're not consciously focusing on something, our subconscious sees and records it. So creating and having a powerful vision board with images of what you want to have and experience is powerful – and those imagines are being recorded over and over again in our mind. Since, as Colin said, our internals create our externals… make that vision powerful enough in your mind and pathways toward its manifestation will appear!

  • Mike Korner

    Good article Colin. Thank you. I really need to get some specifics written down (out of my head). I'm adding a couple new “gamechanging” tasks to the Finances section of my “life area” chart.

    Note to Sarah … Hey, this stuff really does all go together. It's almost like you planned it that way :)

    I may not need to do this after all though as I just got an email informing me that I've won the Nigerian lottery again :) Seriously,

  • Mike Korner

    Update: I may not need to do this after all though as I just got an email informing me that I've won the Nigerian lottery again!

    If only it was that easy! :)

  • http://www.facebook.com/pages/Caring-Creates-/228986840568 Sally G.

    As I've noted in a few comment replies below – I'm letting emotional energy get in the way of solid planning, responsible action and financial control. I'm working on a Business Plan now (with the help of Lisa Hines, a participant in this series and an all-round amazing woman) – and I'm stopped dead at the Financial portion. I really appreciate the advice offered so far and the honesty in the comments that have followed. This is a block I REALLY want to eliminate forever ~ and I need to get over the fact that it's embarrassing to be 45 years old and not have a clue what to do. I'm ready to risk being vulnerable and open to learn what I need to know so that my Life Wheel ceases to be so lopsided.

  • http://www.ginaparris.com GinaParris

    Oh man – I'm still working on my blessed LIST from yesterday!

    Thanks so much for this – for the recognition that it all comes from the inside and its powerful even when it seems daunting to just start!
    I just took my head out of the sand to look at all the auto-matic withdrawls from my accounts and cancelled 3 memberships. I also canceled our Country Club membership this month – which I will miss a lot more in the summer when I won't be lying around the pool with my kids and girlfriends.

    And, I gave money away today – to the precious people that take care of our Compassion child so they can care for their orphans in Haiti.

    The hardest part for some reason is just looking the numbers in the face. “Sex and Money” huh? I wish one was as easy for me as the other!

  • islandgusto

    Deb, I stopped breathing when I read it too. It's an area in which I feel defeated. I have seldom felt that i earned enough to put any away, and during the brief times that I did, it didn't take long for me to dip into it when my income fell off again.

    I suppose I have to face the dragon.

  • Audrey_Godwin

    Sarah and Colin,

    What a fantastic way to talk about our relationship with money. I too had to re-read the post and ask myself, like Teresa has am I practicing what I teach and coach my clients around this subject. Absolutely! And being in my mid 40's it is always an inside job first before it shows up in the world. Changing our relationship with money by putting it in its proper perspective is key. Money is a tool that allows us to show up big and make an impact in the world in the service of others.

    I love Michelle's affirmation that she deserves to be rich because she adds value to other's lives. That is a woman who truly understands her worth! I personally look at it from the perspective that being broke serves no one. And I was created to be a blessing to others – I can only do that with true wealth – spirit, soul (includes the mind) and the physical manifestation through money (as one of the vehicles).

    I so appreciate everyone's insight and perspective here.

  • Teresa Romain

    I've been where you're at, too, Rose… only, get this, I was a starving “abundance coach”! Go figure, huh? And, despite all of my apparent “self confidence”, it all boiled down to the fact that I didn't value myself… my self-worth was almost non-existent (and I'm still working on that today!) Again, since the internals create the externals… until I started making ME important… I would never be able to achieve my financial goals. So I started asking myself a question every day that helped me begin to break the pattern of putting me on the back burner that I hope it's okay to share with you. It was this…

    “What is one thing I will do today to remind myself that I am more important than anything I do/anything that has to get done?”

    As I started consciously putting myself on the front burner in one way every day, I found it easier to start doing it in other ways – including with money. Maybe my question will help you break that “back burner” pattern too.

  • Teresa Romain

    Thank YOU Sarah… I'm honored to be on your list and I'm honored to be able to support as much as I can here today. But, GIRL, you sure are stretching me this week in terms of learning how this whole Social Media world works! :-)

  • Teresa Romain

    Thanks for the vote of confidence Shelagh!

  • Diane Easley

    Luckily I have more assets than liabilities at 46 but the feeling is not quite there. I am truly focusing on money for the first time in my life and am actually excited. Thanks for some great questions and great comments. I appreciate you all!

  • kristieschwanebeck

    hey I got that same email

  • kristieschwanebeck

    I can relate. I too have stopped dead in my business plan at the financials

  • Teresa Romain

    I'm going to DITTO Sarah on this one… the phrase I use with my clients is almost the same “You have to pay attention to money if you want money to pay attention to you.”

    But then I add that it's HOW you pay attention to it that matters most. And the key to that is the word you brought into this discussion, LaConsuelo… GRATITUDE.

    No matter how large or small the amount – pay attention to it with gratitude and use it with respect. Far too often (and I've been guilty of this myself), we “not enough” the money we have and are making today – thinking that will motivate us to make more. But it doesn't work that way. If we're not grateful for and do not respect/take care of the money we already have – no matter how large or small the amount – why would the Universe/God/Spirit/etc. give you MORE?

  • http://twitter.com/JoyFull_deb Deb Bruser

    It's incredibly embarrassing at 58 y.o. !! Thanks for your comments, Sally. (((HUGS))))

  • http://www.facebook.com/pages/Caring-Creates-/228986840568 Sally G.

    You mean I didn't win the Nigerian Lottery? Uugghh …

  • Teresa Romain

    Hi Gina!

    You go girl! One important question: How did you celebrate (or reward) yourself for taking these powerful first “head out of the sand” actions! That is SO important to help you KEEP your head out of the sand! Otherwise, you'll only remember how “hard” it was and/or you'll wind up feeling deprived… and that will bite you in the butt or you'll stick your head back in the sand… which makes getting your butt kicked pretty easy!

    I HEAR you about the hard part is just looking at the numbers. But the NUMBERS are not what makes it hard… it's the THOUGHT (usually judgment) that you have about the numbers. Try this….

    IAMNOWHERE

    What do you see? Do you see “I am nowhere”? (Most people do at first.)

    Do you also see it says “I am now here”?

    Notice how you feel when you see “I am nowhere”. Then notice the difference when you see “I am now here”.

    NOTE: The letters IAMNOWHERE did not change… but I'm going to imagine you sure felt a change within you. And the thing that causes that is that “I am now here” is neutral – you're not saying HERE is good or bad, right or wrong… you're just acknowledging that it's where you're at. “I am nowhere” is quite different… and loaded with judgment that disempowers you.

    So – as you keep looking the numbers in the face… remember to BREATHE! And then remember to keep seeing those numbers as “I AM NOW HERE”… you may not like where you're at (HERE), but you need to know where you're at if you're ever going to be able to get where you want to go. (Kind of like MapQuest… you put in your starting location AND your ending location.)

    Hope this helps!

  • Teresa Romain

    Hey Sally… BREATHE!

    Then check out my reply to Gina above that I think might help shift out of embarrassment into empowerment around this. I'm not going to promise you it will be easy… but I can tell you it's possible… but you've got to drop the judgment you have about your situation and yourself to be able to move forward (step at a time) toward what you want.

  • http://twitter.com/CherryWoodburn Cherry Woodburn

    I'm good with money. That being said my income has dropped significantly and don't have the cash buffer I once did. I need to do due diligence on figuring out what Financial Freedom means for me now and what I'm going to do to attain it. Thanks Colin for sharing your story and wisdom

  • Teresa Romain

    Are you breathing yet!

    Maybe this tribe needs to take ONE BIG collective BREATH together!

    Deb… check out my earlier reply to Gina Parrish.. that will help you take that first COURAGEOUS step of beginning to get clarity – for yourself – about your money… and let go of some of the embarrassment.

    You are NOW here… and even if you don't like being here… it's an important part of the process that you love and accept yourself – unconditionally – right where you're at… “financial warts” and all. It sounds like you've made some mistakes. God knows, I have. It sounds like you wish you had done things differently. I understand. But all of that doesn't make you any less of a person… and when you “get” that, then you can use all the energy you've been using for beating yourself up or “not wanting to look” for ROCKing toward what you want.

    Hugs to you!

  • http://twitter.com/SarahFirestine Sarah Firestine

    This is great! People need to realize that they tell their money what to do, not the other way around!

  • Teresa Romain

    Hey… checking in… are you breathing yet?

    Remember my story? $25 a week is how I started. It's not the AMOUNT that matters when you're first starting out… as much as the habit and the facing of our fears that those small actions represent. And when it comes to being afraid our the “financial boogey-man”, the same thing works for us that we do for our kids.

    NOTE: The boogey-man only comes out at night.. in the dark! And so when one of our kids is afraid of the boogey-man, we don't make fun of them, we don't put them down, we don't shame or embarrass them… instead, we turn a light on! And as soon as the light comes on, the boogey-man isn't so scary.

    Same thing with starting to pay attention to and look at our money stuff… no matter how “bad” we may think our situation, starting to look and see and tell the truth is like “turning the light on”… and it's not as scary as when we're in the dark!

    YAY to this tribe – one and all – for our courage in turning the light on!!!

  • http://www.facebook.com/pages/Caring-Creates-/228986840568 Sally G.

    Oh my gosh Teresa – that is soooo helpful. “I am now here” removes all judgement, it is what it is. In fact, it's actually lit up a little, because I BREATHED – and in so doing, I filled the room with Potential and 'where I should be' had to leave. Thank you …

  • kristieschwanebeck

    My struggle with telling my money where to go right now, is that because of being on an extremely limited income and raising four kids (read: 9600 last year total income) the fact that my kids need to eat etc and bills need to get paid mean that essentially my money dictates things, which is a bit of a hard vicious cycle to break free of). So this financial challenge is definitely going to be that, a challenge. But I am in this to win this so it will happen and financial freedom is something I will experience

  • islandgusto

    OK, I did it- looked at where I am, and where I want to be, how much it would take to get me there. It's overwhelming to think of how much I'd need to live as I'd truly like to, as I am nearing 60, intend to live a long time, and have limited savings. So I set goals for 2010. That's all, just 2010. Sort of a year to get finances in better shape, pay off some debt, start saving. Teresa, what do you think about that? And now, the big question is how will I reach those goals?

  • Teresa Romain

    I got goose-bumps reading your reply, Sally… so you filled up more than the room you were in with your potential…. I felt it all the way here in Wisconsin! Congratulations!

  • Nazima Ali

    Colin, I did put in fixing my finances as part of my goals this year. Last year was the ‘poorest’ year I’ve ever had and a huge wake up call to stop screwing around and start taking care of my business. This post makes me realize that just putting it in my goals is not enough. I have to have specific steps I’m taking to start saving up, how much/month as well as tools to help me figure out what I’ll need for the kind of future I want. Books have been a huge part of my life and music so must make enough to indulge to my hearts content on those:) Thank you!

    Sarah,

    I can’t thank you enough for doing this. I just wanted to ask about the extras you’re sending. I rec’d one email with Creating Magic & Mojo 3 & 4 but nothing else. I opted in so not sure what the issue is and how to correct it as I’m getting the daily emails for the challenge. Let me know if you have sent any thing else and how I can resolve this. I really liked the one email I rec’d and look forward to seeing more. Thanks

    • Anonymous

      Hey Nazima!
      I’m not sure….I’ve checked your email and you are subscribed. With technology – there is just NO telling. :-)

  • Teresa Romain

    I'm so glad that my story supported you Sally… here's a quote you might like from Maria Nemeth's book, “The Energy of Money” that you might like…

    “The good news is that every time you take Authentic Action with money, whatever that action is, you are being financially successful. Financial success is doing what you said you would do with the money, with ease. It’s something you demonstrate in the moment, not a goal out in front of you… “

  • Anonymous

    Building wealth is a refined discipline in an age noted for living beyond one’s means. And for independent professionals, the balance of investing in the business and investing in personal assets presents another choice, should you develop that discipline.

    It helps to love your work so that you aren’t in so much of a hurry to leave it behind.
    All the best,
    Michael

  • Teresa Romain

    WAHOO for you!!! First and foremost… did you CELEBRATE taking these courageous actions! Gotta give yourself that positive reinforcement – not just for results, but for the actions you take! Especially ones that are overcoming longstanding, disempowering habits… and overcoming huge internal blocks! You go!

    Your plan sounds great for a start! This is your year to start building the habits that will carry you to the financial health (and wealth!) you desire! Now you need a plan for following your plan. And Sherman's ROCKing process of breaking it down is one part of that plan. But you also need a plan for your money… if you want to pay off some start saving and pay off some debt.. then you need to have a plan for how you will use your money day in/day out that will allow you to do that.

    (BTW – regarding paying off your debt, make sure you learn a system for doing that… I teach it in my programs but you can learn it from others…but it's important you have a system to follow… you cannot pay off debt effectively if you're just doing it randomly).

    Some people might think of this as a budget… but that's not what it is. It's an Abundance Plan… and it's whole purpose is to give you a plan for using the abundance (yes! abundance) you currently have in a way that supports your short-term and long-term financial abundance. Targets for how you will use your money and for what. Tracking where your money is going. Adjusting your targets as you go. Hitting those targets. Making sure those target include some amount of money for savings, debt freedom AND fun and recreation. Even if it's only $1… it's the habit, not the amount that you're building this year.

    And then CELEBRATE each and every step you take that moves you in the direction you want to go. I will share with you the same quote from Maria Nemeth I shared in another Reply I posted: The good news is that every time you take Authentic Action with money, whatever that action is, you are being financially successful. Financial success is doing what you said you would do with the money, with ease. It’s something you demonstrate in the moment, not a goal out in front of you…

    Hugs (and oxygen!) to you!

  • http://BestLifeDesign.com drmolliemarti

    You know you're singing to the choir here (THANKS for quoting my book!). Wealth Building is one of the 12 Factors of Business (and Life!) Success. I see so many people seek – and even worship – success but they give little thought to how they are going to create it.

    Personally, I set a goal to make my first million by age 40, 3 million by age 43 and 5 million by age 45. I put a plan in place, followed up with LOTS of smart action … and am right on track.

    Your blog – and Sarah's Change Your Game program – are SO needed. It turns my stomach to reach out to amazing, talented, gifted and giving people on twitter who I see as an ideal fit for my programs and hear an immediate response of, “I can't afford it.” They don't even consider investing in themselves (…now there's one thing that will keep you in the poor house) and they have not built up the skill of shifting into asking, “I want to do this…HOW can I afford it?”

    This isn't personal to my programs/services (they are not for everyone!) – it's about the masses and masses of people who choose to spend their days on non-profit making activities because it makes them feel good and is so much easier than getting the heck off the computer, bringing their full gifts to the world, and making the money they deserve. They are not only depriving themselves and their loved ones of financial security, but they are depriving others of help they desperately need – this includes both helping their ideal clients and writing out big fat checks to others in need who will never come anywhere close to having the opportunity these people have to become wealthy.

    We've just experienced a life classroom that offers you a check-in point: Are you able to freely give to your heart's desire to help our neighbors in Haiti?

    Many self-help gurus proclaim, “You were born rich!” My take, as you pointed out, is that you are born with the right to pursue wealth and the potential to be rich. For the people here, income is largely self-determined. How do I know this? You are privileged, literate, capable, dripping with potential, and motivated enough to participate in this challenge!

    So…what are you going to DO to change your game??

    Success leaves footprints. Wealth building leaves footprints. Follow them!

    Colin, I know this is turning into a rant (and you're not even here to tell me to STOP!) – I know you're with me on this. You were the one who asked if I'd include Wealth Building as a core piece of the Heartland Mastermind and you were right on point. You were the one brave enough to take this topic head on to the benefit of this whole community. Thank you!!!

    OK, rant over (…don't even get me started on the sex thing. Haha) Actually, that brings up one final point (I promise!). Look at how you are defining wealth. Focus on an enriched life, not a rich life. My wealth definitely includes financials, but it starts with spirituality, relationships, health and inner peace.

  • Teresa Romain

    Hey Dr. Mollie!

    In keeping with your “singing to the choir” theme, I wish I could queue up Sidney Poitier from “Lilies of the Field” right now…

    A-MEN… A-MEN… A-A-MEN, AMEN (sing it over)…

    Your passion and power shines through powerfully!!!!!! And what I most related to (because I hear it from people interested in my programs too) is how people have not yet learned how to shift “I can't afford it” to “HOW can I afford it? What actions can I take (including uncomfortable actions) that would make it possible?” With the former, we give our power to our money … and your question places the power where it needs to be (and really is)… within us! Thanks for the reminder!

  • http://elizabethpottsweinstein.com ElizabethPW

    Now I want everyone to think about something — you may not need $12M. You may have a different number.

    A *huge* thing for me to have realized in the last year is that I really don't care about tons of things that cost money. AND that many things we *think* cost a lot of money can be done (or experienced) in tons of different ways that don't cost as much money.

    I completely changed my business to reduce the expenses & get the same results. Am getting rid of most of my possessions (that really just clutter up the house … I mean, I've never used 1/2 of my wedding gifts, why do I need them?), am downsizing to a smaller place, I might even get rid of my car. When I travel, I fly Southwest & share a hotel room or stay with friends, go to local hangouts instead of expensive tourist traps. I spent my money on travel & experiences instead of more stuff.

    So don't forget about the flip side of money … knowing what money *doesn't* buy you and how much money you really need to have the life you want.

  • http://www.ginaparris.com GinaParris

    No kidding, that was great. I sort of have tears in my eyes. And it did not occur to me to celebrate at all. In fact just now eating my lunch at Noon Rotary at the Country Club sort gave me a defeated feeling. So um…I'm going to celebrate! Any ideas how? I'll help anyone else celebrate too!

  • Teresa Romain

    Hey Kristie! Your comment brings to our discussion one of the hardest questions to address: How do I become prosperous in the face of real, tangible limitation or scarcity? I don't have the answer (and what I do know would be WAY too much to post)… but I can tell you this (and it's from my own personal experience and that of my clients). But let me share some ideas…

    The first step is to stop focusing on lack, limitation or “not enough” – even when you have all sorts of “evidence” to justify that focus. It begins by practicing gratitude and appreciation for what you already have – no matter how “small” that amount. (And if keep referring to your income as small or the like, you're probably not fully do this.

    Simultaneously, it's about focusing your mental energy on what it is you want – not just in the form of external results like money , but in terms of who you want to be (qualities, habits, experiences). Use affirmations. Create a vision board. Create a vacuum in your life into which prosperity can flow. That means throwing and giving things away. It also means letting go of old emotions, resentment, hurts, anger – all of those things block your energy… and since (as Sarah already commented), “money is energy”… they block your ability to access more money. And you probably need to do what I can some “internal reprogramming”.

    Finally, it means using what you already have in ways that are consistent with what you want to have. If you WANT to save, then you must BE a saver today – even if that can only be $1 a week in your present situation. (Remember, I started with $25.) If you want to BE someone who is debt-free, then you must take action – no matter how small – that is congruent with that. If you want to have money to enjoy your life and give yourself treats, then you must begin that today (not when you're making more money.) Now – given your financial reality, you may not be able to give yourself more than 25 cents a week or month to have fun (buy some bubble gum and blow bubbles!), but you must start to use the money you have today in the same manner you would use your money if you had more. All of the ingredients must be there… the proportions may need to be small given your current reality… but that's where you get to practice the GRATITUDE and appreciation step I already mentioned.

    Hope this helps…

  • LaConsuelo

    Teresa – thank you so much for adding this and for comments to my post earlier. It really is just starting . . . didn't someone in this fabulous tribe this week say “starting is half done” – or was that my BFF . . . . if we never start, we'll have exactly what we presently have, so we can grouse or simply begin and watch the miracles that happen by simply making that stand for ourselves. Again, many thanks! ~Connie

  • Teresa Romain

    Hey there! It sounds like that old expression is at work in your life, i.e., “when the student is ready, the teacher will appear!”… only in your case, it sounds like “multiple teachers”. Congrats! YMYL is a great book… I didn't know there as a re-published version so thanks for that heads up to check it out!

  • sarahrobinson

    Wow! I go to lunch and look what happens! Clearly money has powerful powerful energy to bring up such strong emotions for everyone. I applaud you all for a) looking at it b) expressing it and c) staying open to it. That's the only way to harness this energy for ourselves. Otherwise it just runs all over the place like a wild bucking bronco. Learn to gently tame this animal, and it will carry you for a lifetime.

  • LaConsuelo

    We're having a MONEY component in the Heartland Mastermind?? GULP. Breathe in . . . breathe out. Got it!

  • http://twitter.com/JoyFull_deb Deb Bruser

    Sally and Teresa…
    WOW…..that “took my breath away”….I AM HERE NOW !! Empowering words for me, today, in this moment. It fills me with HOPE that I do indeed have the power & now, the tools, to take my first steps in slaying this dragon. All of you ROCK iT in my book….It's just a blessing to be here. Thanks Sarah for making this happen! And, Colin, thank you, for an excellent post!!!

  • triciadycka

    Great article. Thank you Teresa for stepping in. Quite a bit of what you said has really resonated within me.

    Let's just start with the breathe. Next I will take a percentage and put it away. I have been using excuses lately not to put money away. Well that has stopped. I feel very constricted with this article todya so I know this is something I need to address.

  • http://twitter.com/thrivecoaching Vanessa Torre

    Thank you all for the support! You have NO idea how good it is to hear. I am totally overwhelmed by it (yeah, and my dog eating two pairs of my underwear and having to pay $2700 to get them OUT did NOT help the situation.) The big picture is the key to me. I've lived on a nice salary but my happiness and sanity have no price and cutting my salary in half as a single mom is a daunting idea but the less I have to spend, the more I can focus on what really matters. Spending $365 a month so my daughter is totally counterproductive to the fact my time with her is what my life is about.

    I realized after an amazing vacation to my boyfriend's family (beautiful simple folks in small town Iowa) that we shouldn't focus on the life that we're living but rather how we're LIVING our life. Major two totally different thought processes.

  • Teresa Romain

    You're so welcome Connie! That is how EVERYTHING we want is achieved – by starting! And I'm glad I know your first name now! :-)

  • http://twitter.com/thrivecoaching Vanessa Torre

    Teresa – Simply, I heart you. Thank you so much for sharing your story and the fact that it is NEVER too late. Mucho inspiration!

  • http://www.soulfilledlife.com Heather Gray

    Does this mean I should not have sent in my bank account # and pin to collect my winnings? (lol)

  • http://www.soulfilledlife.com Heather Gray

    Yup — great conversation. Sarah — I like your quote “learn to gently tame this animal, and it will carry you for a lifetime”
    That and Sally's reminders to breathe :)

    I like seeing the concrete #'s. And, got a bit of a GAAAAAAAAAAAAP to fill for 12.5 million.
    But have heard once you get to your first 6 it goes a lot faster.

  • http://www.soulfilledlife.com Heather Gray

    Well said!

  • http://twitter.com/AlexisNeely Alexis Martin Neely

    AND for many of us, maybe it's time to come to terms with what the lifestyle you want really costs. For me, it's not about THINGS at all. It's about support.

    To give my greatest gifts and not spend time bogged down in the things I not only don't love to do, but I am not good at doing, requires a lot of support. I've had to come to terms with that because that support means I'm going to lay out a lot of money.

    I created my money map process because I was tired of making decisions about money without any sort of a framework and when I went through it and did the process for myself, it brought up a whole lot of emotional stuff because I had to acknowledge for myself that my number is $50k/mo. Seeing it there all in black and white made me want to puke.

    But, once I got over that and realized okay, that's just what it is – now, let's look at how we can make that number doing what I really enjoy doing the most – I was acting from a place of empowerment, not fear and not blindness to what was right in front of me.

    And I stopped taking my businesses for granted and starting loving them a whole lot more. Which meant I was doing all the things I needed to do to make sure that they'd continue to support me and my family for years, like legal stuff and insurance stuff and financial and tax stuff.

    So, making a lot of money doesn't necessarily have to be about buying lots of stuff. It can also be about having the kind of support you want and need to do what you do best.

    Right now, in my house – two cleaning ladies, my business manager and his girlfriend (who helps with the kids now and then) and my personal assistant. I love that my creativity can support all of these people and they support me to be able to give my greatest gifts.

  • http://www.soulfilledlife.com Heather Gray

    That was “Teresa” reminding us to breathe. Ok – breathing now. (Sorry Teresa!)

  • Teresa Romain

    Hey Heather!

    Glad your breathing! I liked that quote/image from Sarah too!!! With the emphasis on GENTLY… :-)

  • Teresa Romain

    You're right on Tricia… with our comment “I feel constricted with this article today so I know this is something I need to address.” Do you have five minutes? If so, I invite you to re-read the article paying very close attention to the sensations in your body and the emotions that come up. When you're done reading Colin's post, just BE with those sensations and emotions.. FEEL them, let them be what they are… just be with them like you might sit quietly with a friend who is sick or who is crying and just needs to cry. Maybe in this process you'll get a deeper insight into the thoughts or beliefs you have that are causing the constriction. That may give you awareness of some of the internal blocks you will need to release/shift. OR maybe no new insight will arise. But by being willing to be with and FEEL whatever it is, you will automatically be less scared of it.

    Then be sure to give yourself a hug for taking such an empowering action when you're done…

    Oh…. and be sure to read my reply to Gina from earlier today about IAMNOWHERE…. that might help with the constriction some too..

  • Teresa Romain

    YAY for you Deb! There's a song I know called “You've Got the Power” that's playing in my head right now.

    However, rather than “slay” the dragon… make friends with it. Money – and your relationship with it – has so much to teach you to help you fully express who you are and live to your fullest potential. Besides.. the idea of slaying it sounds kind of painful… for you AND the dragon! :-)

  • Teresa Romain

    My pleasure and honor, Vanessa… truly!

  • http://twitter.com/mmangen Michelle Mangen

    Colin – great post! I recently attended Harv Eker's Millionaire Mind Intensive Weekend and was amazed to learn the power of compounded interest on just a mere $5000 a year saved up for 20 years. It's my intent to get that $5000/yr going for myself and my son.

    I do not, however, have a clear financial goal that can be stated in less than two sentences. I will get it done!

  • Teresa Romain

    I like that… “we shouldn't focus on the life that we're living but rather how we're LIVING our life.” Thanks!

  • Anonymous

    First of all, thank you, Colin, for getting us to focus on something that so many of us would rather not focus on! I am going to be 50 next week, was divorced last year, and walked away with a pile of debt from the marriage – my fault and his, and we did have to split it, but still, not a great place to be. I have no doubt that I will get the debt paid off and get back on the right financial track… fortunately I have a job that pays me very, very well. Last year I changed my health insurance at work so I could participate in an HSA, and that has grown to a nice little savings account in about 6 months – and like Teresa said, I don’t even miss the extra money that comes directly out of my paycheck that goes into it.

    But that 12.5 million thing is a dose of harsh reality – and pretty much the dose I need, so thank you!

  • http://twitter.com/marksherrick Mark Sherrick

    Today has been wicked busy for me, so I dunno how much I'll be able to participate, but I do want to thank Colin for his post today. He hit upon a very valuable topic, no pun intended.

  • http://www.accessabundance.com/ Teresa Romain

    Hey everyone!

    As the Nat King Cole (and Natalie Cole) song goes… “What a day this has been!”

    Thanks, Sarah, for the opportunity to support you out today given Colin’s challenges… what a privilege it has been for me to simply READ all the posts of everyone… and then to be able to pinch hit and reply as a bit of “guest trainer”. I will fall asleep tonight with a full heart. Thanks to all of you!

    As I said on Day #1… I’m brand new to this whole blogging/social media world… so didn’t even realize what you meant when you said you set up Facebook group. So – here’s another first!!!

    See you all tomorrow! Time for me to call it a night! :-)

  • http://BestLifeDesign.com drmolliemarti

    Great, now going to have to ring up one of my psychologist friends… “So how exactly do I get Sidney Poitier out of my head?” LOL

    It's ALL about reclaiming our power. To that, I say A-MEN (…A-MEN… A-A-MEN, AMEN)

  • susan

    Colin,
    thanks so much for the post. Wow 12 million is lots. I definitely need to get to work on this!

  • http://BestLifeDesign.com drmolliemarti

    Um…Colin talked me in to it :-) Oh come on, you know you want (need!!!) it. Everyone who wants to live their best life must learn to use money as the success TOOL it is. No more hiding. No more looking away. It's time to get real, Sister!

  • http://twitter.com/JoyFull_deb Deb Bruser

    Sally….
    It does help to know that I am NOT alone w/ regards to my relationship with $$$$$. Thank YOU so much for your encouraging remarks. I do hope to eradicate my current belief system.
    YOU ROCK !!

  • kymlee

    This one scares me so much I almost didn't comment. I don't know if I'm younger than most of the tribe or what, but I feel way out of my league. I only recently got a job with benefits and it took me nearly a year to start contributing to the 401(k) but I did it. I live a pretty simple life myself. The only “things” I really care about are my computer and my accessories (which I purchase sparingly). It's hard to save when you look at your budget and see literally no disposable income after bills are paid. But that's all part of what I'm here for. I miss being independent and really want to become a full-time freelancer. I'm not even sure how to get there honestly, but I will and hopefully by the end of the year.

    I guess that's all sort of nonsequitor and this post is about determining a financial goal. So I guess that IS my goal, to be independent and work on my own terms. Is that a cop out? Should I be aspiring to more?

  • http://twitter.com/JoyFull_deb Deb Bruser

    I know that song….now I can't get it out of my head…lolol. And you are absolutely correct when you say that I only need change MY relationship w/ money!!
    Many thanks to you, AGAIN, Teresa (((HUGS)))

  • http://www.facebook.com/pages/Caring-Creates-/228986840568 Sally G.

    WE rock!! After reading Teresa's wisdom to Gina about I Am Now Here — I felt a great weight lift off my shoulders and I took advantage of the sudden infusion of empowerment — and I started moving forward in my business planning in the areas of Income, Expenses, etc. There's a lot to be said for Ah-Ha moments ~ and the liberation that came with knowing that I can just start right here, right now — wow, it made all the difference. I do hope this happens for you too!

  • http://BestLifeDesign.com drmolliemarti

    SOOOO agree with your point on experiences, Elizabeth. I share your viewpoint – life is about the love we give and receive and the experiences we have/memories we make.

    As you point out, there are 2 ways to “make” money – by making and by saving. While I'm all for simplifying (you continue to inspire me in this department!), it's a fact that there's a floor effect at some point. That's why it's important for people to keep their eye on lifting the ceiling, too.

    With your background in financial planning, I know you understand the need to consider the long-term so this isn't directed toward you. But I think it's a danger that people will justify “Oh I really don't need much to live on to be happy” and they aren't putting enough away for their later years. No, not everybody's number will be $12M – but the sad reality is that too many people are one crisis away from disaster – and it doesn't need to be this way.

  • http://www.facebook.com/pages/Caring-Creates-/228986840568 Sally G.

    I think that's a HUGE goal kymlee. Not a cop-out at all. I've been a stay-at-home Mom for a little more than 14 years and re-entering the work force as a viable Freelancer is almost as difficult as starting out having never done it before. This is your reality – and you're stepping into it with passion and commitment, or you wouldn't even be here in this challenge. I'm not an expert, but I'd say – if you can put specific steps behind 'independent' and 'work on my own terms' and then apply the action and effort necessary ~ you'll be tracking towards a lifestyle that Colin Lewis has earned!

  • Diane Easley

    Luckily I have more assets than liabilities at 46 but the feeling is not quite there. I am truly focusing on money for the first time in my life and am actually excited. Thanks for some great questions and great comments. I appreciate you all!

  • kymlee

    Phew! Well that makes me feel better. I think its a pretty big deal. And I've been doing a bit of research and connecting with other freelancers I know asking their advice, trying to figure out how to market myself and applying to various freelance jobs. So I'm taking steps to make it real.

  • Nazima Ali

    Colin, I did put in fixing my finances as part of my goals this year. Last year was the 'poorest' year I've ever had and a huge wake up call to stop screwing around and start taking care of my business. This post makes me realize that just putting it in my goals is not enough. I have to have specific steps I'm taking to start saving up, how much/month as well as tools to help me figure out what I'll need for the kind of future I want. Books have been a huge part of my life and music so must make enough to indulge to my hearts content on those:) Thank you!

    Sarah,

    I can't thank you enough for doing this. I just wanted to ask about the extras you're sending. I rec'd one email with Creating Magic & Mojo 3 & 4 but nothing else. I opted in so not sure what the issue is and how to correct it as I'm getting the daily emails for the challenge. Let me know if you have sent any thing else and how I can resolve this. I really liked the one email I rec'd and look forward to seeing more. Thanks

  • Teresa Romain

    Hey Kymlee!

    That is a great goal… yet it doesn't really give you clear direction or plan for getting there. So, in addition to having that goal of being independent, you need to put some numbers to it. How much income do you need to achieve it? What would your revenues need to be from freelancing so that you could cover your business expenses and have the personal financial income you want? Get specific with numbers.. BOTH the ones for where you want to go AND your present numbers (where you're at today.) Then use Sherman's R.O.C.K.ing process for taking steps (even small ones like I've described in some of my other comments) to move in that direction this year. Even if it takes you a couple of years… it's worth it!

    And.. to your less specific goal of being “independent”… that would be something to capture with images on a vision board as has been discussed elsewhere in today's discussion!

  • Teresa Romain

    Hey Mark! Despite being “wicked busy”, are you still going do SOMETHING to R.O.C.K. along so I get to celebrate with you? :-)

  • Teresa Romain

    Awesome Michelle! And then you can support yourself even more by creating a vision board that represents your goal!

  • michaelleiter

    Building wealth is a refined discipline in an age noted for living beyond one's means. And for independent professionals, the balance of investing in the business and investing in personal assets presents another choice, should you develop that discipline.

    It helps to love your work so that you aren't in so much of a hurry to leave it behind.
    All the best,
    Michael

  • Teresa Romain

    Sing it over! :-)

  • Teresa Romain

    Hugs back to you! :-)

  • http://twitter.com/marksherrick Mark Sherrick

    Indeed I am. I have been rocking along, and actually took a HUGE step this afternoon, it's what was keeping me so busy. Yay me! How bout you?

  • sarahrobinson

    Hey Kym!
    Baby steps apply to money just like everything else. :-) You can do this!

  • sarahrobinson

    Hey Nazima!
    I'm not sure….I've checked your email and you are subscribed. With technology – there is just NO telling. :-)

  • Teresa Romain

    Yep! Even with the unexpected change in my day that showed up in my inbox as an email from Sarah asking me to help out in Colin's absence! So YAY us!

  • Teresa Romain

    Thanks for sharing this Elizabeth! I keep reminding myself that I can keep attracting more money… but if I don't retain and invest some of what I make… I'll forever have to keep making that money just to stay in the same place! NO THANKS! I think it's for all of us (I know it is for me) to find that balance between expanding ourselves to access more and yet appreciate and use what we have so we don't NEED to have or make more…

  • Teresa Romain

    You go girl! Just keep putting one foot in front of other and know that I'm doing the same! :-)

  • http://elizabethpottsweinstein.com ElizabethPW

    But I really do have a different attitude … I'm not trying to gather money so I can get to another place. There's no where I want to go. This is it. Yes, I want enough $ for my adventures & to pay for shelter/food/gas & stuff my kid needs & my health & savings for if/when I am too old/sick to earn more money (as in seriously unable to use my brain). Otherwise … I don't plan to retire to live life … this is it. :)

  • lorilatimer

    First of all, thank you, Colin, for getting us to focus on something that so many of us would rather not focus on! I am going to be 50 next week, was divorced last year, and walked away with a pile of debt from the marriage – my fault and his, and we did have to split it, but still, not a great place to be. I have no doubt that I will get the debt paid off and get back on the right financial track… fortunately I have a job that pays me very, very well. Last year I changed my health insurance at work so I could participate in an HSA, and that has grown to a nice little savings account in about 6 months – and like Teresa said, I don't even miss the extra money that comes directly out of my paycheck that goes into it.

    But that 12.5 million thing is a dose of harsh reality – and pretty much the dose I need, so thank you!

  • Teresa Romain

    That is so great Elizabeth! I can really hear that you're where you want to be… my comment was 100% about me because I'm not there yet and your message reminded me of where I'm heading! Thanks again for sharing!

  • Teresa Romain

    Hey everyone!

    As the Nat King Cole (and Natalie Cole) song goes… “What a day this has been!”

    Thanks, Sarah, for the opportunity to support you out today given Colin's challenges… what a privilege it has been for me to simply READ all the posts of everyone… and then to be able to pinch hit and reply as a bit of “guest trainer”. I will fall asleep tonight with a full heart. Thanks to all of you!

    As I said on Day #1… I'm brand new to this whole blogging/social media world… so didn't even realize what you meant when you said you set up Facebook group. So – here's another first!!!

    See you all tomorrow! Time for me to call it a night! :-)

  • http://www.momsdailyretreat.com/ Amelia

    Great topic, sorry for the late response! Money has been an issue we have worked to overcome for years. We do, fortunately, end up on the positive side after doing the math- but if you had ask me this question 1 year ago, I would have responded on the negative side. I actually thought I had my future wrapped up when I invested my inheritance- HA! 9/11 ended that! This was followed by my husband and I living 4 years with the attitude that we were rock stars and needed that life style- toys, trips, the best! Fortunately, we did realize that we were sinking into a very deep and dark hole. We are not doing everything that we need to be doing, but we are doing everything that we can- and it is baby steps for us. It has required a shift in attitude and test of will power. Having said that, it does feel good to pay me first (savings) before anything else. The growing sense of security that we are creating does feel better than any shopping spree I have gone on :) Thanks for this post- it is always good to be reminded, hear new ideas and know that we are not the only ones that face this struggle.

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  • http://www.powtercoaching.com/ Jennifer

    G’morning everyone! Had a very cranky, teething baby yesterday and my little guy seemed to need all of my attention so didn’t get a chance to comment. Having a quiet moment now to re-read the post and all of the comments/discussion and feel incredibly empowered to set and achieve my financial goals. I like money. I’ve always liked money. People have told me that I seem to have a good relationship with money and I think I do too. That said, I’m in debt right now and my business isn’t making money (in the process of relaunching/re-structuring) and I know that it stresses my husband to no end.

    Here’s my question – how much does the energy of our partner affect our ability to create/achieve this financial dream/goal/reality? For instance he’ll say things like “we can’t afford it” and I’ll say “it’s just not an economic priority for me right now” or when we were talking about a vacation this spring he said “we don’t have enough” and I think “I wonder how we could swing this?” Would love to hear any thoughts or insights around this because it frustrates me yet I know we’re each on our own journey – I just don’t want his “energy” or scarcity thinking to rattle my subconscious…hope that makes sense.

    Wish I could reply to all of the comments but need to do some work to move my business forward this morning so here’s a big hug to all of you instead. Love how everyone is sharing their deeply personal goals, fears, hopes. Love it.

    Thank you.

    I’ve got a question -

    • http://www.accessabundance.com/ Teresa Romain

      Good morning Jennifer!

      BIG question you ask… “how much does the energy of our partner affect our ability to create/achieve this financial dream/goal/reality?” Could create a whole workshop around that one. :-)

      Here’s one answer… “it affects it to the degree you let your partner’s energy affect yours”.

      Remember my post yesterday about IAMNOWHERE.. that how you see things will impact your energy and power?

      Well, your husband is NOW HERE too… it’s not good or bad, right or wrong… it’s just where he is at in terms of his evolution… it’s different from you and it has nothing to do with you. But to the degree you focus on it or even judge it (“he shouldn’t talk or think that way”), then you’ve let yourself get sucked into his energy… and that WILL impact you. (Remember, what you focus on and give your attention to is what will show up.)

      Having said that, if your husband is open to it… it’s a powerful conversation to have. But not from the point of judging him or making him wrong (if you’re husband’s like mine, that will NOT work!). It’s more a conversation of what you’re learning, practicing, find supportive and empowering… and asking him if he’s open to thinking and speaking a little differently too… as a way of supporting the BOTH of you to have what you want.

      Like I said… this is a BIG question.. but hope this gives you something to work with.

  • http://www.jessilicious.com Jess Webb

    Wow, confession time. I didn’t read the post yesterday because I was too “BUSY” with “STUFF”. It amazes me to take a moment and think about it now and realize how much time I wasted on completely unimportant stuff – and how much I MISSED because I didn’t take the time to check in here and focus on other important things.

    And I’m the same way with money! Numerous times I have attempted to “budget”, “save”, etc, and yet I haven’t ever really fundamentally changed anything! When I read the post this morning it was a HUGE wakeup call for me. I actually took the time to reach through ALL of the comments, and it has given me the courage to face my own finances head on!

    Today I am writing out some action steps that I can start taking THIS WEEK to take control of my finances and develop a better relationship with money.

    Thank you ALL for your comments, and sharing your experiences and what you’ve learned and where you are at.

    – Jess

    • http://www.accessabundance.com/ Teresa Romain

      Hey Jess! Great connection between your life and your money. I always tell people that “how you do money is how you do most everything”… which is why the subject of money is such a HUGE catalyst for growth! ROCK on!

  • http://twitter.com/lipdesign Lori Paquette

    Wow! Great post and responses. Thank you Colin and Teresa for rattling me. This is the one area I truly need to focus on, especially making a plan and sticking with it. After reading and rereading this I wrote down a number as my 2010 earning goal and it completely surprised me. Immediately shot into self sabotage mode and said, “Oh that’s impossible since I’m having 2 surgeries, the husband will be commuting on weekends from NY, my son requires a lot of attention, blah blah blah…” until I told myself to shut up and breathe (thank you Teresa). I calmed down. I am ready to shift my energy and beliefs to make this work. I have ideas about new business models I want to incorporate to make this happen. I will add it to my R.O.C.K. plan (OK, START my R.O.C.K. plan). Keep up the good work everyone! I’m really inspired by what you’re sharing.

    • http://www.accessabundance.com/ Teresa Romain

      Hey Lori!Congrats for not skipping over this one – it can be a ‘rattling” subject! Given what Kimberlee’s post was about for today and what you got from this… sounds like you’re starting to R.O.C.K. already! Now imagine how much more you’ll R.O.C.K. when you have your plan! :-)

  • http://www.momsdailyretreat.com/ Amelia

    Great topic, sorry for the late response! Money has been an issue we have worked to overcome for years. We do, fortunately, end up on the positive side after doing the math- but if you had ask me this question 1 year ago, I would have responded on the negative side. I actually thought I had my future wrapped up when I invested my inheritance- HA! 9/11 ended that! This was followed by my husband and I living 4 years with the attitude that we were rock stars and needed that life style- toys, trips, the best! Fortunately, we did realize that we were sinking into a very deep and dark hole. We are not doing everything that we need to be doing, but we are doing everything that we can- and it is baby steps for us. It has required a shift in attitude and test of will power. Having said that, it does feel good to pay me first (savings) before anything else. The growing sense of security that we are creating does feel better than any shopping spree I have gone on :) Thanks for this post- it is always good to be reminded, hear new ideas and know that we are not the only ones that face this struggle.

  • http://www.powtercoaching.com/ Jennifer

    G'morning everyone! Had a very cranky, teething baby yesterday and my little guy seemed to need all of my attention so didn't get a chance to comment. Having a quiet moment now to re-read the post and all of the comments/discussion and feel incredibly empowered to set and achieve my financial goals. I like money. I've always liked money. People have told me that I seem to have a good relationship with money and I think I do too. That said, I'm in debt right now and my business isn't making money (in the process of relaunching/re-structuring) and I know that it stresses my husband to no end.

    Here's my question – how much does the energy of our partner affect our ability to create/achieve this financial dream/goal/reality? For instance he'll say things like “we can't afford it” and I'll say “it's just not an economic priority for me right now” or when we were talking about a vacation this spring he said “we don't have enough” and I think “I wonder how we could swing this?” Would love to hear any thoughts or insights around this because it frustrates me yet I know we're each on our own journey – I just don't want his “energy” or scarcity thinking to rattle my subconscious…hope that makes sense.

    Wish I could reply to all of the comments but need to do some work to move my business forward this morning so here's a big hug to all of you instead. Love how everyone is sharing their deeply personal goals, fears, hopes. Love it.

    Thank you.

    I've got a question -

  • tehjess

    Wow, confession time. I didn't read the post yesterday because I was too “BUSY” with “STUFF”. It amazes me to take a moment and think about it now and realize how much time I wasted on completely unimportant stuff – and how much I MISSED because I didn't take the time to check in here and focus on other important things.

    And I'm the same way with money! Numerous times I have attempted to “budget”, “save”, etc, and yet I haven't ever really fundamentally changed anything! When I read the post this morning it was a HUGE wakeup call for me. I actually took the time to reach through ALL of the comments, and it has given me the courage to face my own finances head on!

    Today I am writing out some action steps that I can start taking THIS WEEK to take control of my finances and develop a better relationship with money.

    Thank you ALL for your comments, and sharing your experiences and what you've learned and where you are at.

    – Jess

  • http://twitter.com/lipdesign Lori Paquette

    Wow! Great post and responses. Thank you Colin and Teresa for rattling me. This is the one area I truly need to focus on, especially making a plan and sticking with it. After reading and rereading this I wrote down a number as my 2010 earning goal and it completely surprised me. Immediately shot into self sabotage mode and said, “Oh that's impossible since I'm having 2 surgeries, the husband will be commuting on weekends from NY, my son requires a lot of attention, blah blah blah…” until I told myself to shut up and breathe (thank you Teresa). I calmed down. I am ready to shift my energy and beliefs to make this work. I have ideas about new business models I want to incorporate to make this happen. I will add it to my R.O.C.K. plan (OK, START my R.O.C.K. plan). Keep up the good work everyone! I'm really inspired by what you're sharing.

  • http://www.accessabundance.com/ Teresa Romain

    Hey Lori!

    Congrats for not skipping over this one – it can be a 'rattling” subject! Given what Kimberlee's post was about for today and what you got from this… sounds like you're starting to R.O.C.K. already! Now imagine how much more you'll R.O.C.K. when you have your plan! :-)

  • http://www.accessabundance.com/ Teresa Romain

    Hey Jess! Great connection between your life and your money. I always tell people that “how you do money is how you do most everything”… which is why the subject of money is such a HUGE catalyst for growth! ROCK on!

  • http://www.accessabundance.com/ Teresa Romain

    Good morning Jennifer!

    BIG question you ask… “how much does the energy of our partner affect our ability to create/achieve this financial dream/goal/reality?” Could create a whole workshop around that one. :-)

    Here's one answer… “it affects it to the degree you let your partner's energy affect yours”.

    Remember my post yesterday about IAMNOWHERE.. that how you see things will impact your energy and power?

    Well, your husband is NOW HERE too… it's not good or bad, right or wrong… it's just where he is at in terms of his evolution… it's different from you and it has nothing to do with you. But to the degree you focus on it or even judge it (“he shouldn't talk or think that way”), then you've let yourself get sucked into his energy… and that WILL impact you. (Remember, what you focus on and give your attention to is what will show up.)

    Having said that, if your husband is open to it… it's a powerful conversation to have. But not from the point of judging him or making him wrong (if you're husband's like mine, that will NOT work!). It's more a conversation of what you're learning, practicing, find supportive and empowering… and asking him if he's open to thinking and speaking a little differently too… as a way of supporting the BOTH of you to have what you want.

    Like I said… this is a BIG question.. but hope this gives you something to work with.

  • joecheray

    I am going to do this as well Kristie for both my business and personal life. I live on a weird catch 22 income structure, so I have to be careful how much I make but I would like to make at least $700 to $1000 extra a month so I can put some back each month for business expenses and such.

  • joecheray

    No negative stinkin' thinking re:sorry butt. Your allowing that self sabotage to creep back in go back and read Carla Young's post again and again until it sinks in.

  • kristieschwanebeck

    Thanks Joe for giving that sorry butt a kick lol

  • joecheray

    Yikes that is a pricey vet bill. Glad to hear your dogs came out of it ok tho. Dogs eat the dangdest things.

  • http://kevinvandever.com/ Kevin Vandever

    I am catching up a little on my 30-day assignments, but this one hits home in a big way. I have begun the adjustment that are in line with some of what Colin talked about, but there are others close to me who don’t agree and it has caused its share of issues. The good news is that I understand what I hurdles I have in front of me and where I would like to end up (and that goal was aided by the information in this blog), now I need to do what is necessary to jump those hurdles and reach my goals…and THAT is one of the reasons I am joining all of you on this 30-day quest.

    Thanks Colin

  • Anonymous

    Great post Colin. Wealth surely comes from within – but it does indeed help if you can pay the basic bills. Great advice.

  • Writergrrl

    Wait – have you typed those words on another post…I'm having a HUGE deja vu moment here! BTW, this financial post is exactly the sort of thing I usually avoid because it also intimidates the heck out of me. But being committed to the 30 Days process means that instead of trying to bury my head in the sand, this time I have set up an appt to talk with my hubby tonight about our plan – once and for all. We have BIG dreams, but I also believe that our carpe diem approach has held us back and created MORE stress than help. Again, thank you Sarah for this program…and thank you Colin for the insight and plan of attack!

  • Writergrrl

    I am right there with you, Sally…down to the dollar amount and the base feeling where I operate. Another reason we're working together? ;-)

  • http://kevinvandever.com/ Kevin Vandever

    I am catching up a little on my 30-day assignments, but this one hits home in a big way. I have begun the adjustment that are in line with some of what Colin talked about, but there are others close to me who don't agree and it has caused its share of issues. The good news is that I understand what I hurdles I have in front of me and where I would like to end up (and that goal was aided by the information in this blog), now I need to do what is necessary to jump those hurdles and reach my goals…and THAT is one of the reasons I am joining all of you on this 30-day quest.

    Thanks Colin

  • dorothydalton

    Great post Colin. Wealth surely comes from within – but it does indeed help if you can pay the basic bills. Great advice.

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  • shannonshort

    Whoa. Now that makes a statement: If you ignore (money), it ignores you.

    And I'll add: And if you try to hold on too tightly once you get it, it may be less likely to keep coming around. (You know…kind of like a guy/girl who is suffocated in a relationship.)

    Point is, we have to trust that there is more where that came from (this is the hard part for me) and be good stewards of the money that comes our way, which includes being willing to spend when spending is the “right” decision for our life and our business.

  • shannonshort

    Ha! Teresa, I didn't read your reply prior to writing my own. Sounds like we have similar beliefs when it comes to money. :-) However, believing and acting upon are two very different things. I am still practicing the acting upon part!