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One of the questions I’m getting frequently via email and DM is a variation on “How do I know where or how to start escaping mediocrity when I’ve been living with it for so long?”
Reading map by Andreas Solberg.

Uploaded on March 3, 2007 by Andreas Solberg

While all the pieces of the Escaping Mediocrity Blueprint can be a place to start, one of my favorites is “Pay Attention”.  The reason I like this one so much is because by asking myself to do that – pay attention – I am asking myself to break out of autopilot (a hallmark of mediocrity) and actually notice what is around me.

Here’s what I mean: paying attention means we actually SEE what is in front of us. We notice how we feel and what we think when

 

we look around at our world. Sounds easy enough I know, but my thinking is we don’t actually do this very often.  We zone out or overload our senses so that we can’t – or won’t – engage.

(Think I’m wrong? How often do you take a walk without another person or your Ipod so that you can actually hear and observe the world you are walking past?)

Once I can “pay attention” and decide how I feel about certain aspects or my life or my business – THEN I can start making small shifts and changes that will move me out of mediocre working and living.

I’ll give you two real life examples:

1) My bookkeeping
Since I started my businesses five years ago, I’ve managed what could loosely be called “my bookkeeping” myself. Which meant that whenever tax time rolled around, I had to scramble to get all my paperwork together- which took days and thoroughly irritated my accountant. AND during the rest of the year, I was always stressed out about the bookkeeping that wasn’t getting done. It was like having an application running in the background on my computer – sapping my limited RAM.

When I finally started to “pay attention” and ask myself question about what was draining me in my business (and keeping me from doing what I loved) – this was the first thing that popped up. Notice I had to consciously ask myself the question, even though it was so clearly an energy suck.

After tossing around different possible solutions, I realized I could just hire a virtual bookkeeper to handle it all for me – what a concept! Yes, it required some (okay – a lot) of work from me on the front end but what  huge RELIEF!

Now I no longer have mediocre books for my business AND I no longer have to focus my energy on what I consider to be a mediocre task.  What a concept.

2) My towels. All of the towels in my house are over 10 years old – and some of them are even older than that. I just realized this about two weeks ago. Why did it take me so long to notice that the towels I use every single day are faded, fraying and in need of replacing? I have no idea.

BUT, now that I know – I am on the hunt for GREAT towels. I get to pick the color that I like, the size(s) that I like and the softness that I like.

And…now that I am looking (and noticing) great towels, I’m thinking I might just repaint both bathrooms, too.

Now I know both of these examples seem small and not very adventurous. But I’m accomplishing two things:

1) I am exercising my ability to “pay attention” which means I will get better and better at it.

Uploaded on September 27, 2007 by nickherber

2) I am executing a series of small shifts that will add up and/or lead to BIG shifts down the road.

passing the QM2 at sea by nickherber.

Uploaded on September 27, 2007 by nickherber

One of my favorite analogies does a much better job of illustrating this than I ever could.

Do you know how those great big ships turn around in ocean? Yes, they have enormous rudders that will turn it, but the effort and pressure required to push such a large object against the ocean would be nearly impossible. So, someone very clever figured out how to put a bunch of very small rudders all along the big rudder. So, turning that big ship begins by shifting those small rudders – a few at a time.

Neat trick, huh?

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  • I am following to many people on Twitter and cannot keep up everyone so this morning I decided that I would take on a huge task and visit the websites and unfollow those that don't inspire me. You were the first Tweet on my homepage and so I began here. It's ironic that your mission is to absolve your life of mediocrity.

    As I raise my three boys, I have no time to comb through the issues in my life that provide obstacles to an otherwise smooth existence.

    We all rely upon professionals to fill our needs as a family whether it be for medical issues, beauty care, dining, babysitters etc...Many years ago I decided that if I was dissatisfied with any professional than I would do my best to find a more competent business to handle our needs. This has made my life much easier. If I am paying for assistance, I refuse to accept mediocrity.

    I now have a strong contingency of business professionals that I call "my peeps" and I look to them to help me run a tighter ship.

    My Twitter task is overwhelming, and I may stop here for the time being, but it is a good goal and one which I will attack slowly and methodically. Glad to get to know you better, http://isdisnormal.com
  • I am following to many people on Twitter and cannot keep up everyone so this morning I decided that I would take on a huge task and visit the websites and unfollow those that don't inspire me. You were the first Tweet on my homepage and so I began here. It's ironic that your mission is to absolve your life of mediocrity.

    As I raise my three boys, I have no time to comb through the issues in my life that provide obstacles to an otherwise smooth existence.

    We all rely upon professionals to fill our needs as a family whether it be for medical issues, beauty care, dining, babysitters etc...Many years ago I decided that if I was dissatisfied with any professional than I would do my best to find a more competent business to handle our needs. This has made my life much easier. If I am paying for assistance, I refuse to accept mediocrity.

    I now have a strong contingency of business professionals that I call "my peeps" and I look to them to help me run a tighter ship.

    My Twitter task is overwhelming, and I may stop here for the time being, but it is a good goal and one which I will attack slowly and methodically. Glad to get to know you better, http://isdisnormal.com
  • This is an excellent and proves that moving away from what's draining us or simply not energizing us is a series of small steps and can involve something big like managing your money to making a small improvement in your surroundings. It also helps to do some self examination -- Who am I? What do I believe in? What do I really want? What energizes me?
  • This is an excellent and proves that moving away from what's draining us or simply not energizing us is a series of small steps and can involve something big like managing your money to making a small improvement in your surroundings. It also helps to do some self examination -- Who am I? What do I believe in? What do I really want? What energizes me?
  • Hiya

    Two very different comments for you. First, I love the esthetics of your blog! For me, it really speaks to the 'maverickness' of your nature.

    Second - I can't agree more with 'paying attention' being the starting point to moving forward from mediocrity. As a Life Transition coach, I spend a lot of time with my clients helping them to 'pay attention' to all sorts of aspects of their lives that they have become so habituated to that they are numbed out. In fact, it is often a shock to them to discover that the purpose of enculturation is to put us in a deep sleep, a sort of social coma, so that we're not really paying attention to the dynamics of our world. We become like sheep: easily manageable. Or as Don Miguel Ruiz puts it we are 'domesticated'. I look forward to reading more of your postings. And like your previous commentor, it was Chris Guillebeau's Tweet that twigged me to you. Isn't life so much more grand now that we have Twitter in our lives?

    Gwen McCauley (@gwenmccauley on Twitter)
  • Hiya

    Two very different comments for you. First, I love the esthetics of your blog! For me, it really speaks to the 'maverickness' of your nature.

    Second - I can't agree more with 'paying attention' being the starting point to moving forward from mediocrity. As a Life Transition coach, I spend a lot of time with my clients helping them to 'pay attention' to all sorts of aspects of their lives that they have become so habituated to that they are numbed out. In fact, it is often a shock to them to discover that the purpose of enculturation is to put us in a deep sleep, a sort of social coma, so that we're not really paying attention to the dynamics of our world. We become like sheep: easily manageable. Or as Don Miguel Ruiz puts it we are 'domesticated'. I look forward to reading more of your postings. And like your previous commentor, it was Chris Guillebeau's Tweet that twigged me to you. Isn't life so much more grand now that we have Twitter in our lives?

    Gwen McCauley (@gwenmccauley on Twitter)
  • I've been finding these little actions make such huge shifts for me too recently. And your loose bookkeeping sounded like me - I finally hired an accountant, but I still feel 'stuck' energy in that department!

    On the towel scene, about 5 months ago I purchased organic towels from vivaterra.com and love them!

    Good luck towel and paint hunting. :)
    Love your post, so glad I saw a link to it by Chris Guillebeau on twitter!
    Thanks so much.
  • I've been finding these little actions make such huge shifts for me too recently. And your loose bookkeeping sounded like me - I finally hired an accountant, but I still feel 'stuck' energy in that department!

    On the towel scene, about 5 months ago I purchased organic towels from vivaterra.com and love them!

    Good luck towel and paint hunting. :)
    Love your post, so glad I saw a link to it by Chris Guillebeau on twitter!
    Thanks so much.
  • Hello Sarah -

    First time reader and commenter here! I'm following you on Twitter, and found this post that way. Your observations/recommendations here really resonate with me. Coincidentally, I too am a small business owner, and I too recently hired a bookkeeper. (Loving that!) So I've started taking the 'baby steps' toward escaping mediocrity...or as I look at it, what's not working for me. Seems like it would be super-easy, even intuitive, but I'm finding that shifting out of autopilot requires discipline and perserverance, sort of like restarting an exercise program after a long bout of inertia. Thank you for your post - it inspires me to keep plugging along!
  • Hello Sarah -

    First time reader and commenter here! I'm following you on Twitter, and found this post that way. Your observations/recommendations here really resonate with me. Coincidentally, I too am a small business owner, and I too recently hired a bookkeeper. (Loving that!) So I've started taking the 'baby steps' toward escaping mediocrity...or as I look at it, what's not working for me. Seems like it would be super-easy, even intuitive, but I'm finding that shifting out of autopilot requires discipline and perserverance, sort of like restarting an exercise program after a long bout of inertia. Thank you for your post - it inspires me to keep plugging along!
  • Amy Bryant
    Hi Sarah,

    I love that choosing new towels leads you to want to paint the bathroom. I've noticed how positive action creates more positive action. Knowing you from Twitter, I have projected onto you that you are the "perfect" mom, organized bookkeeping and all. Silly me! We're all human. Brave women like you who are vulnerable enough to admit their less-than-perfect qualities are an inspiration to me and I imagine, many others. Thank you Sarah. I'm delighted to be along for the ride!
  • Amy Bryant
    Hi Sarah,

    I love that choosing new towels leads you to want to paint the bathroom. I've noticed how positive action creates more positive action. Knowing you from Twitter, I have projected onto you that you are the "perfect" mom, organized bookkeeping and all. Silly me! We're all human. Brave women like you who are vulnerable enough to admit their less-than-perfect qualities are an inspiration to me and I imagine, many others. Thank you Sarah. I'm delighted to be along for the ride!
  • I teach my own method for moving off center, and it begins with exactly what you are saying, Sarah. The first of the 3-A plan is awareness. The second "A" is acceptance. In addition to perceiving reality, we need to accept that it is what it is instead of forcing our fears and hopes on the universe. If a cash crisis is looming, a cash crisis is looming. There is no sense in saying, "Maybe business will be better next month." Seeing it for what it is enables us to deal with it effectively. Which brings us to the third "A"--action. Once we are aware of a need to change, and we have accepted the facts as they are, we can focus on action. Without the third A, the others are wasted.
  • I teach my own method for moving off center, and it begins with exactly what you are saying, Sarah. The first of the 3-A plan is awareness. The second "A" is acceptance. In addition to perceiving reality, we need to accept that it is what it is instead of forcing our fears and hopes on the universe. If a cash crisis is looming, a cash crisis is looming. There is no sense in saying, "Maybe business will be better next month." Seeing it for what it is enables us to deal with it effectively. Which brings us to the third "A"--action. Once we are aware of a need to change, and we have accepted the facts as they are, we can focus on action. Without the third A, the others are wasted.
  • Excellent. Yes, becoming consciously aware is the first step toward a positive change. After all, what we are not aware of, we will not (we cannot) change. Great example regarding the bookkeeping. I had a similar experience. Regarding the towels; mine are also probably about 10 years old, as well. But, I’m happy with that. :-)

    Seriously, GREAT article and terrific teaching, Sarah, as always!
  • Excellent. Yes, becoming consciously aware is the first step toward a positive change. After all, what we are not aware of, we will not (we cannot) change. Great example regarding the bookkeeping. I had a similar experience. Regarding the towels; mine are also probably about 10 years old, as well. But, I’m happy with that. :-)

    Seriously, GREAT article and terrific teaching, Sarah, as always!
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