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Break Your Stalemate [Day 13 – 30 Days to Changing Your Game]


Today is Day 13 of 30 Days to Changing Your Game. I don’t know about you but I think the air here positively crackles with energy whenever I open the blog. Awesome. Yesterday, Sandy Grason shared her brilliant B.A.L.L.S concept – what fun! Today, we are going to move into some active fun just a little bit as my friend Andrew Weaver reminds us about curiosity and trying new things. Perfect Saturday fare so read on!

Break Your Stalemate

by Andrew Weaver (@drewmaniac)

Remember when you were a kid and everything was within your reach?

When you were a kid it seemed the whole world was at your fingertips. You had larger than life dreams. You were always thinking about what you were going to be when you grew up.

When you were young you had a curiosity that was unmatched. You had an imagination that could envision yourself doing anything you wanted. You asked why, how, and where. You wanted to know and often you wanted to know now.

As you grow older you tend to lose that curiosity. Adolescence convinced you that you knew it all and a few more years under your belt convinced you that you would never know it all. So you become comfortable with what you do know. You entrench yourself in a willing stalemate. The music that is good is the music you grew up with as a child. The books that are good are the books you read when you were younger. The fast changing technology is too much for you to learn, so you remain with the old inventions you’ve always used.

Don’t believe me? How many times have you heard someone say, “Those computers are just too complicated for me?” If you have, then you’ve just met someone who has entrenched themselves into a willing stalemate in the game of life.

So what can you do? Break your stalemate and learn something new.

  • Grow a garden.
  • Learn the guitar.
  • Learn any musical instrument that interests you.
  • Listen to music you would normally not listen to.
  • Write about something you never write about.
  • Eat at a different restaurant.
  • Read a bio of someone you don’t know much about on Wikipedia (no, really).
  • Try cooking a meal you’ve never cooked before.
  • Take singing lessons.
  • Become an entrepreneur.
  • Try out a social media tool besides the typical Twitter or Facebook.
  • Read a genre of books you’ve never read before.
  • Go back to school.
  • Learn to ride a unicycle (feel free to laugh).
  • Learn a language.
  • Start a blog.
  • Visit a different country with the intention of learning their culture.
  • Learn to ice skate or roller skate.

This is a very short list of ideas. I’m sure you can come up with some of your own. The point is, there is always something new you can learn, try, or do. There is no reason you should ever find yourself at a stalemate in life.

Adulthood should not mean you lose your curiosity. It should not mean you stop asking questions. It should never mean you stop dreaming those larger than life dreams.

Does it mean you will always achieve those dreams? No. If it did, I would be a zoologist (even though I hated science in school) or a professional baseball player (even though I never had the talent to make it to college level). Those were two of my larger than life dreams. I didn’t fail at them. I just learned they weren’t for me. My curiosity moved to other things and different dreams. I learned and didn’t get caught in a stalemate.

Some very simple tips to help you begin to break your stalemate.

  • End the negative thoughts. Stop saying “I can’t” and “I will never.”
  • Start the positive thoughts. Start saying “I can” and “I will.”
  • Make a list of things you’ve always wanted to do, but never have. It doesn’t matter what it is or how impossible it may seem. Once you’ve finished the list, pick just two things you will do this year. Figure out a way and make it happen. Repeat this action next year and maybe even add more than two to accomplish.
  • It only takes about three weeks to establish a new habit. Challenge yourself to create new and positive habits as often as possible.
  • Keep a small notebook of some kind with you at all times. Ideas don’t always come at the best moments. When one does, write it down. Go back later and build on it.

And of what of maybe?

  • Maybe you’re wrong.
  • Maybe they’re right.
  • Maybe you shouldn’t try.
  • Maybe it’s a waste of time.
  • Maybe you will fail.
  • Maybe it’s too risky.
  • Maybe you won’t get the job anyway.
  • Maybe you shouldn’t care.
  • Maybe it is impossible.
  • Maybe it isn’t worth it.
  • Maybe it won’t work.
  • Maybe someone else will do it.
  • Maybe someone else will step up.
  • Maybe it’s not your place.
  • Maybe you shouldn’t speak up.

Maybe, but how will you know?

Remember when you were a kid and everything was within reach? It still is. This short video says it much better than me. It also has a better soundtrack. It was the inspiration for this post. It is addressing entrepreneurs specifically, but I think everyone can be a little inspired by the message. Enjoy these next couple of minutes.

Andrew Weaver
is a photographer, blogger, and self described social media geek. He has an interest in helping others improve their lives both personally and professionally. He authors the blog Leave It To Weaver and you can connect with Andrew on Twitter.

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