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Sabotage? Who Me? [Day 3-30 Days to Changing Your Game]

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This is Day 3 of 30 Days to Changing Your Game. Yesterday Sherman Hu rocked the house with his killer post on ROCKing your goals. Today the fabulous Carla Young is going to help you tap into that mean little voice in your head and kick it in the butt! Watch out!!

Sabotage? Who Me?

by Carla Young

Ever catch yourself in the single most dangerous lie game-changers face? It goes something like this: I am ready (and willing) to step into my success (or own my true potential…yadda, yadda, yadda).

<INSERT YOUR VERSION OF THE LIE HERE>

Whenever I am ready to take a huge step forward in my business, or in my personal life, that little inner voice starts with the quiet whispers:

“Who do you think you are to be doing this?”

“What are you doing, you have absolutely no idea how to do that?”

“Boy are you going to look like an idiot when you fail!”

Who invited this JERK into your headspace anyway?

Um…that would be you!

And you better believe that as soon as I start down that path, that voice gets louder and the whisper becomes a scream! I want to sleep in, clean my office, get sick, run over by a bus…anything to not face what I fear the most: success.

Huh?

It shocked me to the core when I learned that people fear raving success as much as they fear dismal failure. Put another way: we’re the most comfortable right in the middle – not too happy, not too sad, but just right.

Mediocrity.

We get too close to the bottom, we pull up our socks and get back to that happy middle ground. But get too close to the top and we call in sick, check out, sabotage. The worst part is the closer to the top, the greater the resistance.

Whatever you do, DON’T LOOK DOWN!

Everyone has what I call their Holy Shit moment. Even if you’ve played it pretty safe, there’s that one time when for some reason or another you did something way out of your comfort zone.

For me, it was the first double black diamond run I attempted on telemark skis (as a so-so blue run skier).

Friends suggested it saying it would have a hidden pocket of powder because getting to it required a long traverse. The assurances that “It will be no problem” quickly faded to an “Oh, this is steeper than I remember.”

HOLY SHIT! How did I get here and how am I going to get out of it?

Note: The thing about Holy Shit moments is there is only one way out: straight down! That’s what makes it a true Holy Shit moment.

Conquering your Inner Critic

#1: Breathe (and for god sakes don’t look down)!

#2: Focus – Channel your inner Zen master and seek the one thing that will move you forward.

#3: Think back to your Holy Shit moment and know that you have the power to do ANYTHING (even if it scares the shit out of you)!

#4: ACT – Even if you feel like kicking and screaming, take one step forward. (Not a cheat step where you spend a day feigning work “organizing your office” or other busy work, but an actual step forward!)

The Game Changer Rule: if you aren’t feeling the urge to flee, you are sandbagging. Try harder.

Game Changer Challenge

Think about your Holy Shit moment (if you have a bunch you daredevil, pick one). Write down what you can take from the moment – important lessons, realizations about yourself, core values…anything that you think will give you strength for what lies ahead.

Bonus points for picking one task off your game changer list that scares the shit out of you and doing it THIS week.

Carla Young is the Founder & CEO of MOMeo Community.com (http://momeocommunity.com/) and Publisher of MOMeo Magazine (http://momeomagazine/). A Game Changer herself, she’s dedicated to supporting mom entrepreneurs (or mom entrepreneurs-to-be) build work-at-home lifestyle businesses and succeed on THEIR terms at work, at home and in finding a little playtime for mommy!

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